Newborn feeding and not wanting to be put down

[Downbytheocean]

Sorry, I know there are lots of threads on newborns constant feeding but just wanted specific advice based on weight if anyone has any? Ds2 born yesterday weighing 9lbs15, ha to wake to feed yesterday daytime, he was held all day. From 8pm he managed 10mins in Moses basket and I've fed or held him constantly since.
Mw came today and checked latch which seems fine, is painful at start but I can cope so far. She said not to let him sleep all day. The problem is if he's not feeding or sleeping in my arms, he's screaming. So I'm constantly feeding. Is this ok, will it calm down once my milk is in? I'm happy to cosleep and feed lying down but I think DH is worried we'll end up with a second ds with sleep issues. I'm trying to reassure that this could be short term as he's such a big baby.
I would be grateful if anyone could reassure me that a big baby may not always feed like this and I am ok to just go with the flow at this v early stage?

I don't think it's anything to do with your DS being big. My DD was 6lbs 9oz and was the same, so I think it's just normal newborn behaviour. I woke to feed every two hours but then stopped watching the clock when my milk came in on day 4 and then went by feeding cues. I definitely found that it was easier once my milk came in.

And congratulations! :)

Congratulations on your new baby. And yes, feeding constantly... It's what they do, whether big or small. Way way too early to worry about good sleep patterns. Sounds like your instinct is spot on.

Of course it's normal :) he's been in constant contact with you for the last 9 months, he's not used to you not being there yet. It'll get easier.

Congratulations! My DS cried piteously if put down during the day for his first six weeks so I carried him around. It was definitely worth it because he then suddenly turned into the happiest, easiest baby I could have wished for. It will get better!

Totally normal, the constant suckling is what will stimulate your body to produce a good milk supply. Best thing to do is go to bed for the day and have as much skin to skin as possible and let the baby feed plenty. The next day your milk will likely come in and things will calm down a bit!

Lovely, will try a skin to skin day tomorrow now the hoards of visitors have died down! Think the mw advising me to not let him sleep all day has knocked my confidence as he's mostly feeding and sleeping. Thanks for the encouraging words.

It's normal. ATM if your milks not come in ur wee one is living on colostrum n although it's calorie rich it's not enough to fill their tiny tummies so feed away

I suspect the midwife ment that you should not let him sleep all day without feeding. As long as your dc is waking up to feed every few hours or so it sounds completly normal to me.

Colostrum IS enough to fill a newborn's stomach - their stomach is only the size of a marble!

Constant or frequent 'feeding' (or nursing - and yes, 'comfort sucking' is fiiiiiiine) in the early days is perfectly beautiful. Baby is telling your boobs to make lots and lots of lovely milk, creating a big gush of happy hormones to help you fall in love, and keeping baby close to his favourite person! Babies are pure instinct. What a newborn wants is mama, warmth, love, and milk. How to get that in one wonderful bundle? Get on that boob and stay there!

He's been nice, warm and cosy in his little cocoon for the last 9mo and now in this bright, loud place he's prob feeling a little overwhelmed! Feeding a lot is so normal in these early days and can be diff until your milk really comes in.

Re putting him down. Have you tried swaddling? Worked wonders for my DD. She slept so well. If you're not sure how to do it properly one of the mw will be able to show you when they cone for their home visit.

Congrats btw!!!