breastfeeding AND a lively sex life anyone?

[Ruthyn]

I have been breast feeding for 9 months now, and really enjoying it, and not feeling really that sexy at all. We have had quite a few encounters, and more recently, but I can't say I am that bothered. I feel pretty bad about it, as before DS arrived we had a good sex life and now DH is definately feeling a bit left out (although he loves being a daddy, and does get lots of baby time which he likes).
Is it my hormones, will our sex life return (at a reduced frequency I accept) when I stop breast feeding, I am thinking of stopping sooner than I would have, for my husband, is that really right?

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Where?

Harlot's corner?

shall I start a thread then?
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You do it, I don't feel like it. I think it's my hormones

had a very lively sex life when pregnant and breastfeeding didnt put us of at all coulnt imagine not wanting it was glad dh still found me sexy and am sure it does a lot to help get figure back!

friend of mine said their sex life returned to much better than normal when last child started sleeping well round age 3. Now she cannot stop bragging about double even triple orgasims etc!

there seems to be hope for us yet!

if problem for dh - by him a few mag's & tell him to hold on :o

sorry, meant buy

Have you got your periods back yet?

Sorry to come in late - haven't had a chance to read all of this. Not breastfeeding, BUT, please, what is a sex life????

personally i had no sex life while preg, none while bf, brief spurt when dd was ten months which meant that by the time i finished bf at one year i was preg again and definitally not horny. glad there are others out there!

My libido dipped a bit while I was pregnant, especially the last couple of months, then we had sex a LOT in the last couple of weeks (I was desperate to avoid being induced - and the sex didn't bloody work in the end) but a week after c-section I was amazed to feel horny. DH very happy!!

My sex drive has been just as high since having my dear daughter. She's now 20 months old and I can safely say that since she was 10 days old we've been happily in our three to five times a week pattern and loving it!! I'm still bfing frequently during the day and at least twice during the night so I guess I can join the shameless hussy ranks on here then!
Our marriage has just gone from strength to strength since dd was born but my dh is wonderful, he does so much so I get plenty of rest in the evenings when he gets in from work he's always taken her for an hour so I could have a bath or read a book and that ME time has been invaluable.

This is really one of those TMI threads.
Shudder at all the tasteless remarks.

Not here. But that might be more because I don't get much sleep either. But as I've been pregnant or bf-ing for 10 years now it's going to be fun finding out if things improve when I do stop....

one good tip i can give breastfeeding mums is to have a towel handy for that big orgasm.
Nothing is more offputting than happyily bouncing on hubby , and then having him yell 'stop drowning me woman'!!

I have to say when the kids were small, we had a good sex life.
When oldest was 9 , we used to put simpsons on the telly and nip upstairs for a bit of fun.

Nowadays things have changed. oldest son 14, second son 12, then a10 and 7 yr old.
its not nice to have n2 son knocking on door in the middle of the night saying, 'stop that I have enough brothers and sisters as it is.'

We have booked a long weekend away, and MIL is having the kids. Its the only way these days.

Oh, i love it williamsmummy, secret nookie is the way forward then.