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New baby b.feeding advice please.

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mammainlove · 13/06/2012 22:46

Just brought baby home, he's a day old. I had forceps delivery so in a lot of pain, especially when he b.feeds from the contractions! He was fine all day feeding in half hour periods, now hes been feeding for 3hours and wont stop! He goes manic when I take him off, like hes even more hungry, frustrated. it so wrong to do this, even if it's causing me pain? When is he gonna be satisfied?!

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megabored · 13/06/2012 22:51

Hi op. congratulations. The 3 hr sessions or longer are normal. The baby is trying to get ur body to produce enough milk for him in the longer run. Keep it up. U r doing well. Both my DCs did this for about a week all night and then evenings for what seemed like hrs. It will get easier. Bear

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 13/06/2012 22:53

It WILL get easier. Stick with it. On the bright side - if he has your boob in his mouth he is not screaming. This is a good thing.

Look after yourself, and you are doing great x

Tangointhenight · 13/06/2012 22:56

Take some co codemol for the pain, I had ventouse and had a lot of stitches and the hospital prescribed it for me, safe while bfeeding and will help with the contractions. Then take him up to bed, and lie down to feed so you can snooze while he feeds.

You are doing so well, I'm sure someone with a lot more experience will be round soon but take care of yourself, tell visitors to go and stay in bed, it is what I should've done.

jaggythistle · 13/06/2012 22:56

hi, i had a forceps delivery too 8 weeks ago and found lying down feeding more comfortable for the first week!

make sure you get some painkillers, talk to the midwife if you didn't get some from hospital. you can take paracetamol or Ibuprofen in the meantime.

this will help with afterpains while feeding too.

it is totally relentless at first, baby is working hard to stimulate your milk supply. it's totally normal I'm afraid!

cluster feeding for a few hours in the evening is normal too, I've just been snuggled up with DS2 for quite a while!

hope that helps a bit and someone more expert will be along soon.

www.Kellymom.com is also a good site for advice on what to expect.

congratulations. :)

FunnysInLaJardin · 13/06/2012 22:58

you could try a dummy if you are sure he's had enough milk

Alieninmytummy · 13/06/2012 22:59

Also, if it's only day 1or 2 then your milk may not have come in yet so it's not about him being satisfied, it's to do with him feeling comforted, getting colosseum and, yes, stimulating supply. I would ask the midwife to check the latch tomorrow if you're in pain and if it still hurts after that then seek out a BF counsellor who can give you expert advice. If you Google you should be able to find details of BF "cafes" or drop-in clinics which I found to be an absolute lifesaver - they are staffed with experts who can help and answer your questions, and also you get to meet other mums in a similar situation to you.

Alieninmytummy · 13/06/2012 23:00

Colosseum?? COLOSTRUM!

Tangointhenight · 13/06/2012 23:01

Jaggy x posts :o I loved feeding while lying down, meant I could sleep :)

I remember somedays were just a feeding blur, seemed neverending at the time but it does get easier as baby gets quicker!

jaggythistle · 13/06/2012 23:04

it would probably be a bad time for a dummy funny, baby is likely only getting colostrum as suggested above and the more stimulation to the milk supply the better at this stage.

my DS2 was born in the early hours and my milk didn't really start to come in till over 48 hours later despite him feeding loads!

megabored · 13/06/2012 23:04

Sorry to disagree with a poster. Your baby needs to do this to get your milk supply in. I am no health visitor but I would not use a dummy at this stage.

DashingRedhead · 13/06/2012 23:04

Sorry I disagree with a PP, I'm an advocate of dummies but not yet. It's cluster feeding and it frightened the hell out of me first time round but is totally normal. They do it to up your supply. It happens at certain stages.

Congrats on new baby, definitely take pain killers, if in doubt phone the NCT feeding line. You don't have to be a member or have gone to the classes.

I loved BFing. If it works for you, it is great.

jaggythistle · 13/06/2012 23:05

more x posts!

FunnysInLaJardin · 13/06/2012 23:06

OK, I used a dummy with my DC and they spat it out when they wanted a feed. But really whatever. I would still use one.

FamiliesShareGerms · 13/06/2012 23:11

What other said - it's normal, don't worry, you're doing great (congratulations, by the way!)

Tangointhenight · 13/06/2012 23:12

I used a dummy, after about 2 weeks, but its important to at least get your milk in first surely?

Though I do have a friend who is still successfully bfing and used a dummy from day 1..do what is right for you op, some babies need to suck more than others but at this stage its too early to tell. My DD had me up day 2 after birth all night, and I was still in hospital. It was help but it got better once my milk came in.

Tangointhenight · 13/06/2012 23:12

*it was hard

Original poster
mammainlove · 13/06/2012 23:33

Thank u very much for support. I am laid down with him now and it seems much more copable. I hope the milk comes soon, he seems starving! He is a big baby though. 11ibs!

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Timandra · 13/06/2012 23:45

If you need a break to go to the loo etc but don't want to leave him screaming a clean little finger with the nail cut short can make a good nipple substitute for a few minutes and daddies have those too Smile

jaggythistle · 13/06/2012 23:46

aw congratulations again!

enjoy your snuggles. I'm still up with my 8 week old who seems to have forgotten how to go to sleep tonight. he's about 12lb now so you do have a big little guy!

it's good that he's feeding well for you, hopefully that means your milk will come in quicker.

i had all sorts of hassle the first time and it took about 5 days, but DS2 has got on great and it took less than 3. i think the frequent feeding the first few days really helped.

mummysmellsofsick · 14/06/2012 00:02

I agree, no dummy yet, the baby suckling is what helps bring the milk in.

Bf is hard at first but it gets to be a real joy, one of the best things I have ever done. I agree with others who said take painkillers if you need to and learn to feed lying down- this took a while for us to learn but has meant I barely wake up to feed DS at night now and feeding = rest or sleep for me.

Congratulations and good luck Smile

threeleftfeet · 14/06/2012 00:07

What hurts? The actual feeding shouldn't hurt, if it does you need to look at positioning / his latch IIRC.

threeleftfeet · 14/06/2012 00:08

And congratulations on your new baby! :)

showtunesgirl · 14/06/2012 00:30

Trust in your body and just keep at it! The first few days are REALLY hard, I remember one feed in hospital where DD was on one nipple for TWO hours!

And feeding lying down is such a lifesaver! :)

DairyNips · 14/06/2012 00:41

Actually, it's better to take paracetamol or ibuprofen for the pain. Co-codamol isn't telly recommended whilst bfing. You're doing great Smile

Tangointhenight · 14/06/2012 07:21

Dairynips I was prescribed co codemol throughout pregnancy and after the birth and was told it was perfectly safe while bfing by my gp and the doctors in the hospital Hmm