BOOBY OBSESSED BABY!!!!!!

[stephanie21]

title says it all really!my dd is 19 months old,and im having big probs getting her off the boob.she has now started to dive down my top if im talking to anyone else,will scream in front of people when shes trying get my boobs out,and im fighting to keep em in,was stood talking to the postie the other day,whilst holding her,she began to fiddle with my nipple through my top!postie had huge grin on his face!!she has also started cuddling my boob,she'll feed,then come off and kiss my boob and cuddle it saying'ahhhh'!!is all very sweet,but v.v.v. embarressing in front of other people.if i try to refuse her because of other people being around she just screams!!short of cuttng my boobs off,i dont know what to do with her.i know that i have to stop feeding her,but its just really hard as she makes herself sick by screaming if i dont give her my boobs.i know that alot of the time she is comfort feeding aswell.aaaaarrrggghhh!!!help!!!!

Can't advise you Stephanie as am in same situation also with 19 month old dd. Hopefully a wise mner will come along to help us soon

hope so kate!!am finding myself telling people that i am 'still' breastfeeding.thought to myself that i should be saying that i 'am' breastfeeding,not still.do you know what i mean?does your dd feed during the night aswell?mine does,shes on my boobs about every 2 hours during the night and daytime shes on as and when she wants it.feel its my own fault for giving in to her all the time!

Hi

I am bfing my 15 month old - BUT this has not really been on demand since he was about 10 months old. I have found that he has periods where he really wants the breast too and does the things you describe. However I don't want to feed in public anymore and he is very distracted when he feeds so feeding discreetly is pretty much impossible.

I have found that sometimes I just say no if it doesn't suit me - more often during the day than at night. He does cry and scream. I just hold him and sympathise and let him cry but if I've said no I mean no.

Fact is this may be too harsh for some people but bfing to me is a 2 way thing as they are older and i'd rather say no than be resenting the feed. He rarely tries when we are out now - though at home is another thing

Do you want to stop breastfeeding altogether then?

Aw, it is very cute as well as being annoying!

I think it helps to see it as a behaviour thing - as a mum of a toddler part of your job is to teach acceptable and considerate behaviour and to set boundaries. Just as you wouldn't tolerate a toddler screaming at you for attention while you're on the phone or in conversation, or insisting you make her a sandwich now, you teach her that inconvenient and rude demands for bf will not be met.

Of course you have to stick with this, and not give the silent subtext 'unless of course you scream and scream really loudly or make yourself sick'......it's not a 'breastfeeding issue', this, it's a toddler behaviour issue

Some mothers have rules - only at home, only in this chair, sort of thing, but at 19 months you might find you prefer to wait until she is older as that is quite restrictive....though it does work for some.

dd is still feeding at night to get back to sleep (she sleeps with us as hates cot) so it's not a real feed IYSWIM. She has a feed after lunch and at bedtime but will try it on at any old time if she wants comfort. I am juggling working in the mornings and my other two daughters aged 6 and 4 1/2 so I am a bit weak willed with her (too tired for a fight actually).

My policy is a bit like lazycow's. From about a year, I stopped feeding DS2 in public. He quickly learned that if he wants boob, he has to get me to go to my room or his. He will ask to be picked up, and then point towards my room or his, to ask for boob. He's only 16 months, but he totally understands that I won't feed him on demand.

It was hard stopping feeding him on demand, we had a few days of constant fights, but once he learned, it made life a lot easier. If you are firm, they do learn.

oh my god kate!your me!!my dd wont go in her cot either so is in bed with us!(slap on the wrists for us both i think!!)refused to give her boob this morning as she has been on me for most of the night.she screamed and i asked eldest dd to take her into her room to watch bob the builder!it worked,but as soon as she saw me again,she was yanking my top up and pulling my bra open.gave her her breakfast and a quick boob,and have sent her upstairs again.my nipples are sore and they need a break!!