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Bottle-feeding help

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RachW8 · 03/06/2012 20:23

I have a 15 week old son. He was really awful at breastfeeding and would just fall asleep at the breast. I tried so hard to continue and went to numerous clinics but eventually ended up going to expressing every feed. He was fine with the bottle to start with for the first few weeks but since about 5 weeks feeds have been absolute hell. I now use formula and some expressed milk as his feeds take so long I'm either expressing or feeding.

Basically he cries for food but as soon as I get him in position to feed he starts crying a lot. I then have to calm him down until he's half asleep as he'll then take it but only by me getting his mouth open with the teat and poking his tongue down so I can get the teat in. Then if he's too asleep he doesn't suck and just has his mouth open. Feeds take about an hour now and it's driving me mad. I feel like I've done something wrong. I've tried different bottles, teats, temperatures. The milk type doesn't make a difference. I am gutted I haven't been able to breastfeed but because he would just sleep at the breast I didn't know whether he was getting enough and he was small when he was born, just 5lb 12oz even though he was term.

If anybody has experienced this or has any suggestions I would really appreciate any help. I feel like a prisoner as I can't go out for very long at a time because I can't feed him in public like that.

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wigglesrock · 03/06/2012 20:54

Can you read the signals that he is hungry before he gets too upset - my youngest daughter had a small window between noticing that she felt hungry and complete and utter meltdown Grin

I wouldn't force the bottle in re readjusting his tongue, if he's going back to sleep he's not that hungry. He's probably using the bottle/milk for a bit of comfort. I bottle fed all my 3 children and sometimes at 15 weeks feeds did take an hour. He's still really young and you are probably both still finding your feet.

If its any comfort your crying baby always sounds like the loudest when you're out Grin If its any help sometimes my dd3 would take her feed if I stood up and started feeding her then slowly sat down - strange but true!

Have you spoken to your Health Visitor? I think I had a 16 week appt.

JiltedJohnsJubilee · 05/06/2012 09:50

Agree with wiggles. Also, how is his weight? Is he gaining? Is he bright and alert at times?

southfacingpuddles · 07/06/2012 03:14

This sounds exactly like my DS, now 3.8... We had to feed him in a darkened room sitting on a gym ball singing repetitive songs- he just wasn't interested! I also ended up expressing every feed- and the whole of the rest of my time sterilising, pumping and washing up. I decided to give that up at 12 weeks when someone pointed out that on a basic clinical level, breast milk was probably better, but if it was at the expense of any relationship with my baby, then it was time to stop. We then tried every teat bottle combination in the land, and nothing made a major difference but it did slowly improve. He is still a very slow disinterested eater, but is absolutely fine! I feel your pain but it WILL improve, so good luck...!

southfacingpuddles · 07/06/2012 03:16

Ps-have you tried a different formula? We never did and now I'm feeding DD1, she definitely preferred one over another. (btw, she's totally different-feeds so much more easily!)

JiltedJohnsJubilee · 07/06/2012 11:43

Forgot to add that feeding such a small baby for an hour is perfectly normal. Our DD is 4 and regularly takes an hour to eat her dinner. Just relax and see it as a opportunity to have a sit down and watch something good on tv Smile.

RachW8 · 09/06/2012 21:21

Thank you all for your replies. He has been gaining weight, I guess I just worry as he is smaller than other babies his age that I see as he is just below the 9th centile. He is perfectly happy between feeds. I have decided he is just not that bothered by food as is more interested in discovering the world around him. I guess I just need to stop stressing and let him dictate a bit more. If I had other children I wouldn't be able to spend so much time feeding!

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