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Really don't want to stop, but...

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brokenmummy · 02/06/2012 19:55

I need to gently start weaning ds, almost 1yo, off the boob.

Ideally I would still like to do morning and bed time feeds only. Is this possible?

I feel like I need a bit of reassurance that he can cope without me. I desperately need a night out and as long as I'm breastfeeding, ds will settle for nothing less. If he wakes ( which he often does) in the evening, only I will do. No one has ever successfully put him to bed other than me. I have missed so many big events ( weddings etc) because I have to be at home for bedtime.

I desperately want to continue but I also HAVE I nightwean for my sanity. I am severely sleep deprived, still battling pnd, and relationship with dh is rocky because of all the sleepless nights, exhaustion, competing tiredness etc.

I am considering CC - does anyone know if this is likely to affect the bfeeding relationship? I don't want him to wake up in the morning and not want to feed ever again. However apart from this, I am happy with the concept of cc past one year so please don't criticise me for this. I won't do it though if it will mean the complete end of bfing.

The last question I have is regarding fertility. I want to be ASAP, but have pcos and very irregular periods. Prior to conceiving I managed to regulate them over the course of a year by takin agnus castus

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brokenmummy · 02/06/2012 19:56

Oh crap I didn't fjnish the post!

Anyway, I think due to my irregular periods the usual rules don't apply re fertility and breastfeeding. Anyone know more about this?

In summary then, I want to continue bfing morning and night, want to night wean and possibly do cc, and also become pg.

Possible?

Thanks!

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MoaningMajestyReignsAgain · 02/06/2012 20:01

I had phases of feeling like this, sometimes you just feel rather fed up of it all.

It may well get better, I was feeding 4 x a night and getting thoroughly cross with no sleep at that age. One thing I found helpful was Gentle nightweaning Not just for co-sleepers.

I personally don't like CC at all, and I think it is a big leap for a BF baby who has been parented so responsively up til now Sad but it is your choice of course

pickledparsnip · 02/06/2012 20:01

I really and truly don't mean to sound rude, but is it a good idea to ttc again if your relationship is rocky and you're still battling pnd? Welcome to tell me to bugger off!

pickledparsnip · 02/06/2012 20:03

Sorry, my post wasn't helpful, especially as it wasn't breastfeeding related. I'm not much help as still going 2.6 years!

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brokenmummy · 02/06/2012 20:07

Pickled parsnip - you're right, I didn't really mean ASAP. Tht was a vit hasty. I guess I'd like to know its possible if and when we are ready, when I said rocky, I meant we bicker and argue because of exhaustion, rather than we're going to split - we're definitely in it for the long haul. As for the pnd - well that's being very well treated but I get very low periods when the sleep deprivation gets the better of me.

I will have a look at that link, thank you moaning. You are right about cc, it is a big jump, but I feel so at the end of my tether and rather desperate that at the moment i feel like I need a quick fix. iLife I said, not if the consensus is that it would mark the end of bfing.

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ByTheWay1 · 02/06/2012 20:13

We gradually came off BF by doing one morning bfeed and one evening/teatime bfeed - if you are going to give a bottle/cup of follow on formula - try giving it at bedtime, you may even get a full night's sleep that way - we did!!

cluelessnchaos · 02/06/2012 20:13

My ds2 was still feeding four million times a day and night at a year but within a couple of months that was down to four total. The only thing I did was make sure he went into his cot awake and tried to shush him back to sleep in the night. He's now 18 months and only has 2 feeds and I can leave him for dh to put to bed ( but only if I'm not home) at about a year I introduced a cup at bedtime and had done stories already

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brokenmummy · 02/06/2012 20:26

Bytheway1 and cluelessnchaos - did you have a cup of milk AND a bf if you were doing bedtime? I did think about giving DS a cup of cows milk followed by a bf initially, so the cup doesn't come as too much of a shock when DH introduces it. I'd like to continue the bedtime bf when I put him to bed as I find it so relaxing! I guess I'd just like a bit of flexibility so DH and I have our own ways of putting him to bed.

BTW, he happily takes a cup of cows milk during the day. It's just bedtime and nighttime that he NEEDS me. I guess first of all I need to work on him self settling at bedtime rather than feeding to sleep (he used to do that so well!)

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ByTheWay1 · 02/06/2012 20:49

We just had the cup at bedtime - and a special snuggle where I gently rubbed their forehead whilst they held my little finger.... so sweet..... I found that my milk supply decreased at night time first anyhow, so bf at bedtime became a bit stressful and a cup solved this for us... combining it would be ok I guess, if it is for comfort for both of you, but removing bf last thing might stop the waking in the night for a "comfort feed"

cluelessnchaos · 03/06/2012 08:33

I introduced a cup of cows milk after bath then story thenboob. It's all turned around now to cup then bath then teeth brush then story and boob but that's because he wants to brush his teeth the same time as his brother. I think when dh does it the gives him his milk with his story.

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