Feel like giving up 16 months

[DeathMetalMum]

Last few days dd has been terrible, she has been wanting to feed constantly during the day which I normally wouldbt mind but she has also been wanting too feed to sleep. Only problem with this is when she feeds to sleep she wakes a lot during the night and as a result of this is soo tired the following day.

We changed the routine to no feed to sleep just over three months ago and it has been going well apart from a few blips, I really dont want to get into the habbit of feedig her to sleep (It wasn't working when we stopped anyway).

Getting her to sleep the past feew night have been really draining, I was ready to give up the same time we started no feed to sleep as she was biting and feeding was becoming very stressfull for me I could not relax at all, (she had a bug fpr 10 days and relied on the boob to keep her going pretty much). I am starting to feel the same again when i feed her want it to be over with and unable to relax im not sure why this is.

It's a phase, just be patient and it will get easier again. Just feed her when and for how long she wants and things will be nicer for her, and hopefully you can use that thought to reduce your stress. Co-sleep if you don't, then you can get more rest and it doesn't matter if she wakes up during the night.

Is the wrong time of the month for you? My periods came back when my now 14 mo DD was 10 mo and every time I ovulate until I get my period I enjoy feeding DD less. It hurts (sore nipples) but I have less patience for her too and get that can't relax feeling. This agitates DD who wants my let down quickly. Just something to consider. During this time I don't offer the boob ever and is she is distracable then I distract her rather than feed. If she really needs it/wants it she will let me know.

Also is she teething?

Oh and I would defiantly try to co sleep until she starts spacing out her night feeds again.

This is reassuring: kellymom link

Its during the day she is wanting all the feeds, im strugglig to allow her to feed to sleep as she always has a dusrupted sleep when she does this, it doesnt effect me too much really as df gets up with her in the morning she is just really grumpy that day.

Halo- I think you have hit the nail on the head I think I possibly ovulated beginning of the week had first af last month. The article was also helpfull have probably alredy read it before but wasnt applicable at the time lol.

She is also teething but we have just had two teeth two weeks ago and one last week without much trouble thankfully so wasnt sure on that one, even though it is usually the first thought.

Ah sorry night feeds are my problem, I just assumed it was yours too!

Does going out help? Or any other distraction? Inviting a friend plus their DC round? A nice new cup for drinking water/milk out of? Carrying her a bit more if she wants holding. My DD often is happy to be carried to delay feeds although it breaks my back after a while.

Or let her have her dummy/blanket/teddy round the house (if she has a comfort item). I realise a lot of people wouldn't agree with the dummy but that's up to you.

Just a couple of days with less feeds might break the habit.

Not really sure how to stop feeding to sleep as it stopped working for my DD months ago and usually she self settles (with dummy blanket and musical seahorse) but I've spent months patting her so no how frustrating it is when they just get up and won't lie down to sleep. Sometimes I have to leave her to cry if it gets to me ("mummy won't help you sleep if you won't lie down, I'll be back in a minute) then I go back in and see if she will let me soothe her. Not sure if any of that would apply to your DD.

Hope it passes soon and if you decide to give up (which you can you know, its about you as well as you DD) it goes smoothly for you. xx

Im guessing it is a phase as distractions dont seem ti be effective when we were out at a group we go to she even asked there where i usually dont see her from the minute i walk through the door she is so busy playing, also friends were over today and she still wanted feeding.

We tackeled the no feed to sleep a few months back it was going great but she seem to want to do it again and i feel bad for not letting her as she gets upset but I dont want to get back into that habbit it was hard enough to break the first time around! Was doing a gradual withdrawal method but have rocked her the last two nights.

I suppose the stopping idea is part of the way im feeling i hope to stop by the time she is two and we were down to three feeds so looked promising but the way she is at the moment makes it feel impossible again.

Water intake has reduced a lot today have been giving it to her using a glass as i know she cant refuse that way its far too exciting