Best breast feeding scarf?

[Cydonia]

Can anyone recommend a good scarf for discreet feeding in public? DS is a week old, feeding going ok but cannot imagine doing it anywhere other than at home with boobs on full display! After doing some research I've come across the mama scarf or the faye and Lou breast feeding butterfly, has anyone used these and are they any good? I don't need it for carrying him in, just to support and hide really!

I think these things make it less discreet as they draw more attention to what you are doing. Just use a muslin or a blanket.
What has made the most difference to me is nursing tops. Matalan sell them for 8 pounds each on their website if you want cheap ones, also H&M. If you want to fork out, there is JoJoMamanBebe. These tops mean your boobs are not on full display at all, your nipple is out but that is covered by the baby's mouth. There are always loads on sale on Ebay.

You could try the vest under a normal top method- it works and is much cheaper than buying loads of nursing tops. You just need some strappy vests like these and then pull your shirt up and the vest down. That way once your baby is latched on then no-one can see a damn thing and you can keep a muslin square handy to mop up puke or cover any nip slips.

Don't worry, everyone is nervous the first few times. Your DS is so tiny still! The first time I BFed DD1 out in public she was 4 weeks old and I hid under a massive marquee scarf- I don't give it a second thought now.

Yes I agree about thin strappy vests. In fact I got so used to wearing them everyday for feeding I still do it now even though dd doesn't feed when out!
If you do want to get a scarf my friend just bought a thin fabric one from New Look & wears it when she is out & may need to bfeed. It's quite big but fine so is just worn round neck & tied & then if she needs it for feeding unties it & drapes it over babies head & her chest. It is as thin as a muslin so baby doesn't get too hot but big enough so little hands flapping around won't dislodge it.
I also agree that breastfeeding scarves just make it look much more obvious what you are doing & people may look wondering what on earth is that even though they are not interested iykwim. Good luck, it does get easier, I was so nervous feeding in public at first but you get used to it quickly.

wrap and mock wrap dresses are great too.
I got some of these from dorothy perkins
www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=33053&storeId=12552&productId=4984840&langId=-1&sort_field=Relevance&categoryId=228005&parent_categoryId=226988&pageSize=20

And then I got a cheapo vest top and cut it so it finished a little bit below the boobs. For feeding I just push one side of the dress aside and then lift out the cropped vest to cover the top of my boob.

Thanks for the tips! I have a couple more questions....do normal strappy vests stretch enough or are purpose built nursing ones better? Bearing in mind my boobs are quite big and (ahem) 'low down'. The other thing is the support, as currently used to sitting down with DS on a pillow. I guess with practice I'll be able to just hold him on?! Sorry if I sound a bit dim!!

Oh and that dress is lovely KatandKit, have a christening to go to in July would be just the thing!

Normal vests are pretty stretchy I've found, you can always get them in a bigger size if you need to.

Yes, with a bit of practice you'll both be fine- he's only a week old, if you're able to type complete sentences then you're doing bloody well Breastfeeding is natural but it's still a skill that you both have to learn so give yourselves a bit of time and don't worry too much about getting back to normal- at this stage it's fine to just lie around getting to know each other if that's all you feel like doing.

Don't forget as well that your right to breastfeed in public is protected by law, so staff of restaurants, cafes, shops etc cannot treat you unfavourably because you are breastfeeding- and in my experience the general public doesn't really give a monkeys.

If you have a breastfeeding group nearby like Baby Cafe or LLL then you might find it helpful to go along once you're up and about.

I wore normal (non-nursing) tops that had space to chuck a baby up inside them, with a variety of cheap scarves. Primark was excellent for them - and cheap is definitely better, as they wash up well. Expensive scarves tend to be made of cashmere, or silk.... a couple of regurgitated feeds, and they're finished.

You have a point Eau Rouge, he is only a week old, think I'm trying to run before I can walk but just hate being tied to the house! I think we do have a local bf support group so I'll have to try and go to that, though will have to be organised as its a morning meeting ;)

I no longer use a breastfeeding scarf unless wearing a particulary unsuitable outfit for feeding but I found that using one gave me confidence in the early days. I got mine online from baby bubu but there are heaps of similar ones. I had the same issue with breast size and it was great to have a bit of privacy when I was struggling with positioning when ds was small and I was still learning.

I'm with the strappy vest (in a couple of sizes too big) brigade, but I know friend who wears a bump band instead, that covers from the top of her jeans to under her boobs, then just a loose top over that.

Try practicing at home with a few different outfits and also at breastfeeding groups (tea and chat will distract you from thinking about it). You'll soon be whipping LO on and off your boob without a second thought.

And don't worry about turning up 'late' for a group; there's no such thing as late, they are drop-in sessions, and you won't be the only one that arrives 10 mins before the end because LO needed feeding/there was no parking half-way through.

Yy to strappy tops one size bigger than your normal size or a bump band to cover your stretch mark covered tummy.
Another thing you can try is to bf in front of a mirror/get someone to take a photo face on of you - it should reassure you that once baby is latched on you really can't see anything anyway.
Good luck!

I also have that dress from Dorothy Perkins and tandem bf my DTs at a twin playgroup in it so it is definitely stretchy enough!
Rather than vest tops I wear stretchy bra tops from M&S here, as I am quite small of nork I wear these instead of a bra.