am I a selfish cow?

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My 7 week old ebf baby sleeps through when I feed her at 10 until 6-7. I think I want to give her formula instead at 10 so that:

I can share responsibility with boyf
I can get some more sleep
I can drink more than a single or 2

Am I a selfish cow??

Also,

I think I want to give formula in the early evening to top up bfing, as he cluster feeds for 2-3 hours every night at 6ish and has every night since her was born. Topping up with formula seems a good idea as he'll get his food faster as he's always starving then and it makes me feel guilty.

Again, am I a selfish cow?

I feel like one: getting pretty depressed right now.

Thanks for any advice x

No! I gave my ds formula once a day at 1 week to get some rest.
Im sure you're doing a great job, sounds like it!

Well done for getting to 7 weeks, fwiw I'm doing exactly as you're suggesting and DS is 3 weeks and 2 days.

I don't think you're being selfish at all xx

Congratulations on a baby sleeping through the night that young. In your enviable position, I'd hesitate changing things around in case it disrupted this pattern, tbh. Giving formula affects your supply unless you pump instead. You shouldn't feel guilty for feeding him - that's what he wants and you're providing it.

If your baby is sleeping through its fine to have a bit of alcohol - it isnt stored in breastmilk, so if your blood is clear of alcohol it wont be in your milk either.

Cluster feeding is normal and doesnt mean that your baby is starving.

To be honest things sound great as they are, you've done so well getting to this stage and it will get to bigger stretches in the evening. I wouldn't risk disturbing things however you must do what suits your family.

Thanks all - you taking the time to give me advice means you are all lovely and it's really, really appreciated xxx

Agree with others, it doesn't make you selfish but you can have one or two and bf .

If you leak have you though of collecting your bm in breastshells and seeing if you get enough for a 10pm feed?

You have to do what's right for you. You are certainly not a selfish cow. Do what works for you x

I dont think your selfish but your doing extramly well already so agree with others about rocking the boat. Your baby already sleeps a full night many babys are still up 2-3 times a night at this age. Introducing formula bottle at the 10pm feed will mean you going a very long time between feeds which could have a long term negative effect on you milk supply. The same with toping up earlier in the evening, cluster feeding is normal and helps order in the milk for the next day so again this could have implications on your supply. Its totaly up to you but you should be aware that it could cause problems.
Your parten can help with the baby in many other ways. Even having skin to skin contact and setaling to sleep.