Trying to stop bf 17mo but she wanted it so much I cried and gave in

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We only have a bedtime feed now. I am pg though and exhausted and want to give up. Last night was fine - dd was happy just with bottle. Today though she was so insistent and looked so upset when I said no that I just burst into tears and gave in.

I know you can co-feed and bf when pregnant, but I don't want to.

Any advice to help me stop. Ideally dh would do bedtime for a week while we stop but he's not usually home from work on time.

In a similar position (15 month old and pg) but unlike you I want to continue. However I have serious nursing aversion so have decided to night wean. I really recommend Dr Jay Gordon's website.

Don't beat yourself up that it's not happening right away, your LO still needs you and it may take a little time for her to realise you can give comfort in other ways. I know you're probably feeling impatient but I find it helps to focus on the positive - ie; she's gone to sleep without a feed once so you know she can do it. I'd also recommend reducing the feeding time gradually rather than an all-out ban straight away.

The fact you want to stop means you will, and you are not 'giving in' by giving a feed, it's natural to want to give your child what you know will make them happy. You're stepping in the right direction but may have to slow your pace to meet hers. Good luck! :)