Orgasm and let down

[FinallyReady]

Name changed for an embarrassing question. Apologies for TMI.

I'm a single mum still breastfeeding DS, who's 2. Been single for a year. DS nurses maybe 4-6 times a day/night when he's with me. When he's with ex-H he just has cuddles.

I've only recently started to feel ready to meet someone new, and the other day I had a kiss with someone, who I think it could go further with. In fact, I would love it to go further. One of the things holding me back is the memory of once when I was with ex-H... and I came as he was kissing/sucking my nipples and my milk let down and he got an unexpected mouthful! Obviously with him it wasn't a big deal and we just laughed about it.

I'm not looking for the next love of my life, I just want to enjoy myself. New man knows I have a 2 year old, but hasn't met him and I don't plan for him to.

Do I somehow manage to shoehorn the fact I'm still breastfeeding into a conversation before things go further and run the risk of seeming like a weirdo to someone with no children who probably hasn't given full-term BFing much thought?! And warn him I might squirt him?! And risk him running for the hills?!

Do I tell myself that if I don't feel comfortable talking to him about this I shouldn't be having sex with him and consign myself to celibacy until I meet someone I'm serious about?

Is it less likely to happen now that DS is feeding less than he was a year ago?

It never happens when I'm masturbating, so I think it was the combination of mouth-nipple stimulation. Should I just try to make sure my nipples aren't involved when I'm coming, even though I really like that?

Do I put it out of my mind in the hope it doesn't happen, but run the risk of it happening without warning and him running for the hills?!

Ok, I can't believe I've actually typed all this on the internet. Please be gentle with me

I'd tell the new person I was breastfeeding.

And I don't understand why it would be a surprise that someone sucks your nipple they get a mouth full of milk when you are lactating.

just tell him like you don't think it's a big deal and there is no reason why he should think it is.

Mention something about breastfeeding, ie gentle on the left one my son bit it this morning, here you should have seen them when i first started feeding (jordan eat your heart out!) ha ha, i remember once they even squirted when i was coming, it felt amazing, i don't know if they'd still do that. With any luck he'll be trying his hardest to make it happen!
It's never happened to me, I wish it would, sounds great!

I don't think you need to mention it as it may not happen and if it does you could just explain it ( ps - not someting I am into but you would probably find quite a lot out about the topic if you did an "internet search", but perhaps it is not really what he is likely to be into; but he might be)

Difficult one! I think I would probably mention that you're still breastfeeding (without sounding apologetic or trying to explain that it's ok to bf a toddler, etc) and explain that you may leak a bit.
Otherwise you run the risk of not enjoying it because you'd be stressing about it while you're having sex. Chances are he'll be ok with it and if he's not too bad, you'll find someone else!

Thank you everyone.

MoodyNagoo, I had the impression that 'suckling' is a quite specific action. Don't children grow out of the ability to do it after a while? And it only happened that once, so I don't think it's a given. Although me and ex weren't exactly at it like rabbits, obviously, so there weren't too many opportunities.

Xenia, if I've learnt one thing on MN it's never google anything!

Pignut - I certainly hope he doesn't start trying to make it happen! That would be very distracting.... I'd much rather he focused on the matter in hand

olimpia I think that sounds like a good plan. I'll have to think of something to say because I seem to be in that schoolgirl 'oh I like you and now I feel all shy' stage, and I definitely don't want to come across as embarrassed or apologetic about it. You're right, he doesn't seem like he would be easily freaked out, and actually if he is then my attraction to him would definitely reduce, so what does it matter?

Finally, I think I probably had a very 'easy' let down. I was on another thread about how an 'experimental squeeze' can still get milk 7 months after stopping BF Baby Goo.

I think that it's an oxytocin thing isn't it? ANd that's the same for sex and babies, isn't it? Is all love