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Infant feeding

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anyone up? need advice with my 20hour old son

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2wwmadness · 05/05/2012 02:21

hi
hes ffeeding well but can go hours between feeds. hes filled 5 nappies all getting less tar-y more solid and yellow. Hes done 1 wee. had a good feed at 9:30pm and i woke him up at 1:30 for a feed. changed his nappy (poo) he was awake and sucking slightly but wont latch on and falls back asleep. i try blowing on him and hand expressing a bit so he can get the taste but he wont latch or suck and is currently asleep in my arms. hes in no distress. The midwife told me he shouldnt go 4 hours without a feed though. he was born at 2 on the 4th may and has had 6 feeds and 5 (or 6) nappies since then. does he need this feed now? how do i get him to take it? shall i just wait for him? no drugs used in the birth, hes just chilled and not a fusser (ha, famous last words) hes my 1st baby

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upsidewide · 05/05/2012 02:28

Woweeee! Congratulations. Lucky you, a new baby, it's so exciting. Now ...breath .... relax... enjoy ... both of mine were very sleepy in the first few days. I was wired, all I wanted to do was watch them in amazement. They are truly beautiful. It is normal to be worried that you aren't "doing it right".

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2wwmadness · 05/05/2012 02:34

so hes not bothered and it will be ok to let him sleep? i think so its just the midwife told me the 4 hour thing? thanks by the way. hes incredible!

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CreamolaFoamless · 05/05/2012 02:36

first congratulations!

second that him tell you when he is hungry , the 4 hour rule is just a guideline

Birdsgottafly · 05/05/2012 02:40

The 4 hour feed advice, is just her quoting the ideal, but, to be honest i think that is more important for ff babies.

All three of mine were sleepy for the first few days, i can remember thinking with my first "what's all the fuss about", i soon learned!

The milk that you are producing at first is 'super strength' and meets all of his needs. As long as he is producing nappies, all is fine. He will soon wake up.

HateBeingCantDoUpMyJeans · 05/05/2012 02:42

So he is being bf? Does he have jaundice?

He is telling you as loud as he can that he's not ready yet, enjoy a bit more sleep.

giraffesCantDonateBoneMarrow · 05/05/2012 02:45

I think its ok, he will be exhausted, and sometimes milk doesnt come in for a few days - in those cases do babies just have the wee bit that is in? Therefore must be lots of good stuff in it. Sorry crap explanation but i think its ok.

giraffesCantDonateBoneMarrow · 05/05/2012 02:49

can you have a rest and try again in a few hours. the colostrum has loads of goodness in it.

giraffesCantDonateBoneMarrow · 05/05/2012 02:50

sorr I meant an hour or so rather than 5 hours! aah its too late!
]oh and congrats!

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 05/05/2012 03:17

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lindsell · 05/05/2012 03:35

I'm up with my 2 day old ds2, with the opposite issue - he doesn't want to leave the breast alone to sleep! been feeding him almost constantly for 3 hours...

With ds1 he was similar to how your ds sounds, he did have a bit of jaundice though so mw said I had to wake him to feed every couple of hours. Afaik it's quite common for them to be pretty sleepy in the first 24ish hours but if he's still sleepy/not wanting to feed tomorrow (well later today now!) then maybe speak to your mw just to make sure he's getting enough.

And congratulations!

rednellie · 05/05/2012 04:24

Important thing as well, is he's doing poos which are starting to go yellow. You are doing brilliantly, don't worry and keep putting him to the breast or having cuddles. Lots of skin contact will be a) good for your milk coming in b) good comfort for him learning to feed and c) is just lovely.

And yeah, as Birdsgottafly said it wont last

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2wwmadness · 05/05/2012 04:46

Hey! Just woke up again! Thanks for the advice. We gav up and went back to sleep and he's still sleeping! So I'm rolling with it, he's happily squeaking away and showing no signs of hunger or distress. Just me showing em actually ha! I think (and I know I will regret this) he came on his due date, gas and air birth, latched on straight away. Contented baby. I'm waiting for this to get stressful! I'm gunna go back to sleep and enjoy my little squeak a but more. I'll keep tabs on him today and I'll see the midwife later so that will help. Thanks so much. Your advice is amazing and calmed me down when in trying to shove my. iPod into a sleeping baby's nose! Thank you. (ps, So much easier to type with two hands)

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2wwmadness · 05/05/2012 04:48

Shove my nipple, my iPod was not near the child, I promise

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giraffesCantDonateBoneMarrow · 05/05/2012 05:41

heliumballoon · 05/05/2012 05:56

at typo. And many congrats on your new baby!!
My baby book says... "Your baby will be exhausted from the birth so on the first night you may well get a good sleep and a chance to recover from the birth. He is likely to sleep for up to 10 hours without wanting milk... Make the most of it as this will be the last unbroken night's sleep for months. Your second night with your new baby will probably be a very different story as his appetite kicks in, making him wake every hour or two for a feed... Offer your baby milk every time he cries and forget about a regular feeding pattern for the moment. If you follow your baby's demands, feeding will be erratic. Sometimes he'll want to feed every hour, and then you might find that occasionally he'll go for four hours without food- don't let him go longer than this as his blood sugar will drop and he'll feel too sleepy to wake up and demand food."
HTH. It's a useful book BTW- 'Your baby week by week' by simone cave and Caroline fertleman.

MrsSnaplegs · 05/05/2012 06:07

2wwmadness so now you see the problem - its the nipple that goes in not the iPod

fhdl34 · 05/05/2012 07:12

ahhh so teeny tiny, congratulations! Don't want to get your hopes up but my DD is EBF and she's always slept at least 1 6hr stretch since day one. No-one told me to wake her until day 2 but she fed so frequently when she was awake, 3hr feeds, the doctor in hospital said it was fine not to wake her. She had no jaundice signs and is an 18wk chunky monkey. Congratulations, off to squeeze my DD now :)

marshmallowpies · 05/05/2012 07:25

Congratulations! My baby (11 days old) slept for hours the first night but I didn't get a wink thanks to someone snoring on the ward

We still have to wake her for a night time feed at the moment - I think she'd sleep through given the chance - but DH is insistent she should have her 3am feed!

BigBoPeep · 05/05/2012 18:18

mine was the same - first night, plenty of sleep, second night - 14hrs of almost nonstop suckling...

crikeybadger · 06/05/2012 17:59

How are you getting on now 2ww?

Has he woken up a bit now?

JustFab · 06/05/2012 18:05

I was told not to let DS1 go over so many hours without a feed but he had jaundice. It was tough to wake a sleeping baby though. If he has wet nappies then he is getting milk and try not to worry. The midwife might have the qualifications and ecxperience but she doesn't know your baby. They are all different and it is a really great idea to trust your instincts. I wish I had. I would be doing a lot better now if I had!

Enjoy!

JustFab · 06/05/2012 18:06

marshmallowpies - ignore your DH. If you wake her too much when she doesn't need a feed then she might start it becoming a habit when she didn't need the feed so none of you get the sleep!

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