Inspired by another thread but didn't want to hijack. Also posted in sleep.
DS is 6 1/2mo and back to feeding every couple of hours overnight.
Started on solids at 25 weeks and he's eating well.
Usually I dream feed on my way to bed at 11 and I'm aiming for one feed 3 or 4ish and then 7.
Last night was particularly bad in that he ecided that going to bed was overrated. I gave up trying after only a couple of attempts to settle him and then he lay on my lap for the best part of an hour until I stuck a boob oj his mouth at 9:15 and he was asleep in 3 minutes.
I just popped him into bed in my way up at half ten. He then woke at midnight when I fed him but put him down asleep and at 3 when DH tried to settle him but the screaming did my head in so I fed him. He woke again at 5 and I spent half an hour parting, cuddling rocking and then left DH to it. He's still screaming hysterically now and sounding exhausted.
We've tried to reduce night feeds before - for a week or so before going on holiday. The plan was to dream feed at 11 and do one more feed at 3-4ish. The first night DS woke up at 1 and screamed at DH for 45 minutes before falling asleep and waking again at 3. And he did the same for the next 6 nights with no improvement at all.
He has no idea how to self settle at all. He has reflux so can't be put down to bed immediately after a feed but has to sit up for half an hour to stop him being sick. I do make sure he doesn't fall asleep with my nipple in his mouth during the day, although he's still being held but don't always manage it at night because Ii often fall asleep during the feed.
He is also dairy intolerant and gets distracted feeding during the day so I'm also concerned about how much milk he actually has. He frequently feeds for little more than an hour in 24 hours with half of that being at night . I know when I express it takes me an hour to produce 4oz. I only hope he is more efficient than the pump.
I know I need to sort this but I'm not sure where to start..