after the four day weekend, I am fed up of being pawed and mauled almost constantly. I'm also sad because I didn't want our bf relationship to end on such a negative vibe. there have been more tough bits than good bits along the way, but I wish we could've ended on a good bit.
still, to practicalities. ds2 is the most boob attached. he asks constantly, signing, sayin "mi", pulling my top. distraction works for brief periods, offering alternative food/drink generally only for as long as it takes to eat/drink it, if at all. if I say no it results in full blown meltdown from which he will not be comforted. if I offer, then dd will want to latch on the other side. ds2 will have a couple of sucks, all will be well, and he will just want to sit and twiddle the nipple for comfort. if I put it away he'll ask again and we can repeat the above cycle. dd asks herself less often if ds1 isn't already feeding, but once latched, she will happily remain there for an hour.
they are in full time nursery and midweek typically have a big feed before/after breakfast, another on getting home from nursery, and another at bedtime. night time is the worst. ds2 wants to stay attached all night. I co sleep with them from about midnight (dp in another room). he used to be able to self settle, but I think reflux has got worse recently, and he will cough and cry or vomit when he wakes if I don't latch him on right away.
I know I can't wean tomorrow because of the nights. I'm going to try and see the GP this week to see if he can help with the reflux. but how on earth can I do this without causing untold trauma?