Ah my daughter is coming up 20 mths and I still love breastfeeding her

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Hi ladies, i've not been on for a while but have had some great advice in the past. My dd is nearly 20 mths and I still feed her pretty much on demand, well when we're at home anyway. She eats loads and I alwas have healthy snacks for her inbetween her and I always have a drink to hand mainly water although she does like a cup of milk with breakfast too.
The thing is i have such mixed feelings there are days when I think ah i want my body back and other days when I just love it. My dd has never slept through and i suppose i wonder if sometimes she just wakes up out of habit and then feels she needs 'bougar' to get back to sleep like a dummy. I really want to stop before she is two. Please if anyone can help please be gentle though i feel so emotional about this. I suppose what i really want to know is any advice on how to encourage her to stop on her own, how can i distract her more, i've tried the boobies are for little babies and now you're a big girl but not worked maybe i need to try this more, also i'm thinking of potty training in about three months too but am aware that i shouldn't have too much change in one go... so please if my rambling makes any sense please can you help. x

My DS is almost 20 months and I'm still breastfeeding. I think DP "puts up with my preference", but really it's an easy way of getting him down. As DP says he would like a routine in place which but never seemed to live by it himself.

Have managed to convince DS that Mummy Milk is only for bed time, as I was finding on demand rather hard especially the requests in public. Now he 'wants' to go to bed at 8 rather than being convinced that he should.

Although, he's just had a bout of a vomiting bug and I was still thankful that I still bf'ed, as he tends to keep breast milk down when he's got a tummy bug.

But now I've got it grrr.

Two nights ago when I was getting him into his pajamas he pulled out his willy and aimed it for a wee rather than just watching it trickle out so I am too thinking about potting training now. Most stuff seems to say wait until they are two though.

I suppose they are getting less and less baby like, which is a bit of an adjustment for me as I'd gotten used to someone being so dependent on me. But now he wants to do things for himself. So that's why I'm thinking of potty training.

OK regarding night time waking, do you have a dh/dp who could go to her instead of you? This is how we stopped the feeding at night with dd2 at about 18 months.

I think you need to get night time sorted first then think about daytime. You need to dissociate bf with routine and then with both my girls I did don't offer, don't refuse with them at this age and it petered out over a few months.

I agree with you too regarding potty training although this may work alongside the don't offer don't refuse approach.

Yes I would go with the night weaning first, but don't expect her to then sleep through is very common for preschooler's to still wake at night. Not feeding her will not nesacerly garantee a full nights sleep.

We also did don't offer, don't refuse which work well for us, DD also learn very early on that we didn't feed when out of the house which helped. You can also offer a snake or drink instead, I think she's probably a little to young to understand the milk is for baby's thing but she can learn there are limits to nursing.

I wouldn't mix in potty traning at the same time either as they can regress quit easily when young if you introduce anything else that may be a bit stressfull.

mig lol tab"snake"!!
OP you don't really sound like you want to stop, yet you say you want to before she is 2. Are you sure?

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