a night without baby

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AmandaWJ · 17/03/2012 10:23

quick question - DD is EBF and has the occasional bottle of expressed milk. We have been invited to a wedding when she will be approx 4.5 months and DP wants to stay overnight and have a drink, i am worried about my supply being affected and confusing DD as its such a long time to be without the breast but DP thinks i'm being unreasonable... i'm not am i? i would be much happier not drinking and driving back the same night but DP is nagging for a night to ourselves :/ any advice on what should i do? (maybe this should be in the 'am i being unreasonable' catagory!)

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HettyKett · 17/03/2012 10:30

WRT supply, you'll be fine just pumping for 24 hours or so. That really isn't an issue. She'll just be thrilled to see your boobs you when you get back.

It probably would be good for you and your relationship to have a night away, but only if you can relax and enjoy yourself. If you aren't ready to leave her overnight then you shouldn't do it. End of. 4 1/2 months is very young.

Do give it serious consideration, it's so easy to let your relationship slide a bit when DC come along. How long is it until the wedding.

WillSingForCake · 17/03/2012 10:36

Your supply will probably be OK, as it's a one-off, though you'll need to express anyway or you'll have aching boobs! However, if you don't want to be away from your baby (I'd feel the same as you), you'll end up having a shit time. Maybe you could not stay over for the wedding, but agreed to have a night away with your DP once your DD is that little bit older?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 17/03/2012 10:55

Think Will suggestion of promising a night away later is a good compromise. For me, I wouldn't have felt comfortable leaving such a young baby for a night and wouldn't have relaxed or enjoyed myself.

HappyAsASandboy · 17/03/2012 10:56

As others have said, I think it will be fine if you'd like to do it. Your baby will be fine with a bottle if she takes them and you can build up enough in the freezer to last (you need about a fluid ounce for every hour you'll be away, plus a bit of contingency in case you're delayed/a bottle gets spilt etc).

That said, if you'll be miserable, don't do it. It won't be relaxing and romantic if you're wishing you were at home!

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AmandaWJ · 17/03/2012 11:25

I'm thinking i'm going to try and compromise with a night away a bit later, she feeds so often at night that i'd be worried about not having left enough milk with her nana! The wedding is in May, we're actually just going to the reception but due to travelling it would mean being away from DD for almost a whole day, i don't think i'll be ready for that at 4.5 months! I'd feel much happier when she's having solids as well as bf. Thanks folks :)

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 17/03/2012 16:32

Is there any way that Nana and DD stay at the hotel too? That way you wouldn't have to worry about running out of milk. Would that be an option?

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AmandaWJ · 18/03/2012 10:04

Nope, they couldn't really stay but it's ok cos he seems to have agreed on waiting a couple more months so she's on solids :) i cant wait to have a night away as well but thought it'd be best to do it when we're both ready rather than too soon and just end up worrying about DD all night! sometimes compromise can work :)

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candr · 19/03/2012 11:41

Can you not take baby with you and sleep in a pram in quiet corner? then you and baby can get cab back to hotel when you are ready and your DH can stay later if he wanted. I could not have stayed away all night but then DS won't take bottle from anyone but us at night and is a crap sleeper

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