How to stop BF and how much milk should 17mo have daily?

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I've been breastfeeding for the last 17 months and mentally I'd planned to finish up at around 18 months, or longer if it didn't feel right to stop then. However for the last few weeks my 17mo dd has been asking for more "juice" when she finishes a feed. I only feed her when she wakes in the morning and last thing at night. I've been ignoring the morning request and just giving her breakfast after her feed, but in the evening I've been giving her around 100ml of cow's milk as well as a breast feed. I feel that it's reaching its natural conclusion but I'm not sure how to make the transition and I'm also worried about giving her the right amount of milk as she's been waking in the night lately, every couple of hours, and crying for a few seconds then going back to sleep but she used to sleep solidly.

Can anyone tell me
a) How to make the transition, and
b) how much milk she should have in a day and how to space it out?

Thanks in advance :)

a) I stopped at 13 months - first DP just did the putting to bed bit with a cup of milk. Then one morning DS wasn't interested in the first feed so we went straight down to breakfast and that was it. Have you tried just asking her if she wants a cups of milk instead?

b) around 350ml a day including yoghurt/cheese. DS never really liked drinking cow's milk and has stopped entirely now (18 months) so has milk on his cereal, a stick of cheese for an afternoon snack, and a yoghurt for pudding after dinner.

DD will drink more cow's milk if I warm it up to body temperature. Just thought I'd share my tip

Sorry, didn't have much time to post yesterday. Agree with Rita, you could offer the milk instead and 350 ml sounds about right although this link has the offical NHS advice, I think.

As for dropping the feeds, just going down for breakfast in the morning sounds like a good idea. If DD woke too early we used to offer her some cows milk in a bottle with a juice spout instead of a teat. Often she would drink this and then go back to sleep until breakfast.

When we dropped the evening feed, we gave her cow's milk in a cup in the bath and DH put her to bed for a week. Had to wait until we had a week where he would be around each bedtime. Once the week was over she had more or less forgotten about it.

This information from the La Leche League may help you make the move smoothly.

Thanks for all the tips :) I'll start doing it gradually and see what happens. Thanks jilted for those links, I can't believe I forgot about La Leche, I was always on there at the start of breastfeeding, and that Healthy Start website is great, I've bookmarked it for future use.