How do i stop feeding ds 19m when he doesn't want to?

[bluefootedpenguin]

That's it really! DD stopped at 15m no issue, she was ready but DS would feed all day given the opportunity. Half of the time I think this is more for comfort but don't know what to do other than let him scream for ages. He isn't easily calmed with an alternative drink or diversion.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am really ready to stop.

TIA

No real advice from me but bumping for you. I will be hitting a similar problem soon with my DC2. So far the only thing I've found that works is being out of the house. Obviously not a viable longer term solution but I am using it to break the habit of the morning feeds and it seems to be working, although it is not an instant solution.

Does your DS have scheduled feeds or does he feed on demand / when tired etc?

Thanks for replying! No scheduled feeds just when he wants really and this is always more when tired/I'll. He has had a bad run off colds/infections over winter but is fine now, but he really loves bf. Like you, if we are out he is less demanding and will go without, when at home it is full on screaming/tantrum if I try to refuse. It is really starting to get me down. He wanted feeding 3 times in the night and I know he doesn't need it. I am so tired and need to stop now.x

Well FWIW I'll share what I plan to do as I face a similar situation to you and DC1 stopped at 14 months with no issues (although I was pregnant and working at the time). I notice that if I stay on top of meals and snacks etc DC2 asks less often for a feed. So I'm going to get strict with a routine (as much as I can with another toddler in tow) and make sure DC2 goes down for naps before the tired pawing kicks in, and that meals and snacks are ready before the hungry screeching and chasing commences. I reckon if I can manage this for a week I can gradually phase out most of the daytime feeds - we are the same as you, so on demand rather than scheduled feeding until now.

I think you will have to tackle the night feeding as a separate issue and I will be no help with that whatsoever as we co-sleep. Offer water in the night perhaps instead? You may find that the night feeds change slightly if he is eating more in the day, or you may find them slightly easier to cope with if you are not already resentful of the continued daytime feeds (like me!)

Good luck!!

DD finished feeding at 19 months and DS2 is 16 months and I'm in the process. both were feed on demand and would feed all day if they could.

What worked for DD and is working for DS2 the past 48 hours, is being very busy during the day, especially now the weather is nice. Playgrounds, down the beach, out in the garden and I'm not sitting down to rest where he usually punces me! It has meant that he has had his morning nap while we are walking back from the park but no issues without bfing. He likes water and normally will throw the container at me if he wants to be fed but again he has no issues having his sippy when he is in the buggy.

The night time feed was harder for me, in the end with DD I went away for 2 nights, she woke up and saw I wasn't there and went straight back to sleep without any issues. DS2 is different in that he is generally a very good sleeper but if he does wake he wants to be fed. He hasn't woken the past few nights so I'm hoping when he does my milk will have dried up by then!!

Ooh, I have literally just posted the same problem. I night weaned a month ago which was surprisingly easy but daytimes are a nightmare

Some advice I have read recommended initially getting into feeding schedule and then working on dropping the feeds one at a time, starting with the nighttime ones.

I did a bit of nightweaning with my 16mo a few months ago, because whilst I didn't mind her feeding once in the night, twice+ was really tiring me out. So I started to feed her the first time she woke, but the second time or any subseqent times I just cuddled her. Within about 2 nights she was happy to settle back to sleep with just a cuddle and a suck of her thumb. Not long after this, she dropped the remaining night feed on her own, but I don't know if that was just a coincidence.

Thanks for your replies. I too find he is less demanding when we are out or busy so I am definitely trying to cut down the daytime feeds to morning and bedtime with midday if desparate! Think dp will have to help out with the nights and offer water as he just screams if I cuddle but won't feed him. Thanks again!x