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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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Original poster

"when are you going to stop breastfeeding?"

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clare40 · 02/03/2012 19:53

Im just having a moan here! But, I have been asked this question about 5 times this week. My baby is only 4 months so not yet! Why oh why do people want to know!

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MrsKitty · 02/03/2012 19:55

Smile sweetly and ignore.

Or ask when they are going to stop asking stupid and ill thought out questions and start minding their own business.

rubyslippers · 02/03/2012 19:56

I usually say I will be one of those mums sticking a boob thorugh the school gate to feed DD

She is 2.5 years old

Anyway, the answer is for as long as you and your child want to

In my case, I can't work out how to stop without DD sobbing for weeks

nannyl · 02/03/2012 20:03

I answer with "I dont plan to"

TittyBojangles · 02/03/2012 20:04

Say "I'm pretty sure I will have stopped by the time he/she goes to university, but who knows?!" I've said that a few times about my DS 16mo.

Pearla · 02/03/2012 20:09

"In about 5 minutes." :) Ignore and do what you and your lovely DD want to do. No one else's business.

Pagwatch · 02/03/2012 20:16

How about 'gosh, what an odd question. Can we talk about something else that is more...well..any of your business really'

I used to say 'when we are ready. I promise you'll be the the first to know'

But I was rarely asked. I have an 'oh do fuck off' face.

SwivellingDicksTidyWife · 02/03/2012 20:18

'I don't know, he hasn't decided' worked well for me Hardly ever asked though, TBH

gemma4d · 02/03/2012 20:28

pearla.... lol!

jodidi · 02/03/2012 21:01

I always said "the who recommend 2 years so that's my target". What do I say now she's 2 though? It rarely comes up now tbh, so I just let people assume we've stopped as she only feeds morning and night most of the time now.

thisisyesterday · 02/03/2012 21:02

it's just something to say i think! i just normally say "oh i dunno, when i feel like it" or "when he feels like stopping"

your baby is so small yet, i would just go with "i have no idea, haven't really thought about it"

Yawner247 · 02/03/2012 21:06

My sister asked for the millionth time last night ...dd is 10mths in a week so I replied when she's 18 I'm going to wean her onto Malibu and milk!!!!! It really winds me up! Mil always asks how we are getting on and whenever I say yes she's cutting another tooth we get "Oooh that'll be the end of feeding you'll struggle now and find it uncomfortable"...she gets told "well you said that last time but we managed well then"! Grrr!!

Al0uise · 02/03/2012 21:11

"I have no idea! When did you stop giving your children bottles? Oh of course he still has one morning at night doesn't he, and he's .....? Oh 5, really, well let's see if we can match you and your outstanding parenting"

amistillsexy · 02/03/2012 21:12

When he's not hungry any more

Teapot13 · 03/03/2012 14:19

"It's so kind of you to take an interest in our family."

nickelhasababy · 03/03/2012 14:20

i would do and say "she's only 4 months old!"

crustyonion · 03/03/2012 14:33

I used to get quite cross when DP & MIL used to ask when I was going to stop with my DC. I think it was because they felt a bit left out. I always answered "baby led weaning, so I don't know". DS stopped at 10 months (I was gutted as that was WAY too early, but I couldn't force him to latch on) and DD was 15 months. The big problem with baby led weaning is that you never know that the last feed is the last feed.

Quotationist · 03/03/2012 14:41

My DD is 5 mo. I was discussing returning to work with somebody this week, and she asked when I would wean onto formula milk. I said I wasn't planning to, as breast milk is free. She was fine about it! Just be honest and say you're not really thinking about it!

Quotationist · 03/03/2012 14:43

Wow. One too many exclamation marks there. I didn't mean to sound so demented jolly.

nickelhasababy · 03/03/2012 15:00

why on earth would someone ask when you are planning to wean onto formula? like that's the default? I can understand the weaning onto solids, bot away from one kind of milk to another.

(but i suppose when you start giving them cow's milk, you're doing that anyway...)

Solo · 03/03/2012 15:10

Ignore, ignore, ignore!!
My Dd's father said I should have her on a bottle by 6 months! and I got to the point with my Mum, of telling her (politely) to butt out, that I would feed her until I and she was ready to stop , and I'm not ready! She was actually 4.10yrs old when my milk disappeared! but Mum did butt out! My Dad didn't think I was odd as he'd been bfed until her was 4yo.

Original poster

clare40 · 03/03/2012 16:38

Thank you all for replying. I do feel the pressure to stop (husband, MIL and people who are generally uncomfortable with me feeding in the same room as them!) but I want to do at least a year. Just wish other people could be more as tsupportive!

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nickelhasababy · 03/03/2012 16:47

ignore them.
and tell them to get to fuck.
especially your DH - the main thing you can say to him is "do you not want the best for your baby ?"

TerrorNova · 03/03/2012 16:49

I'm lucky my DH is very supportive. He was bf so obviously the ILs are supportive too. It's my mum that cracks me up all the time. She's always asking whether I've got enough milk for my 11mo. Also while MIL thinks DD is very clever eating the same as we do (BLW), my mum is always on about baby rice and mush. Luckily all the comments is from my own mum so it's easier to deal with. I can be direct to her in a way I can't to my MIL. And I know she only say these things because she cares.

Oh and I have asked what does she think her great grandma feed her own mum. Before there are formula or blenders .

nickelhasababy · 03/03/2012 17:00

same with my mum.
luckily, i don't see her very often.

amuses me that while my sisters both got "i support your decision and to do what's best", all i got was "how long are you going to do that for? you'll be one of those weirdoes that feeds when the child's 7" and my dad had to be forced to stop leaving the room (visiting me in my house 1 week post-partum). (both of my sisters were ff - i have no problem with that, but my mum seems to think it's more acceptable)

nickelhasababy · 03/03/2012 17:00

(i mean, they both ff their children)

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