Aptamil email saying baby should sleep through at 17 weeks?

[MamaMaiasaura]

What utter bollox and saying that you should give Watertown break the habit? Seriously wtf? 17 weeks is a time for growth spurts and development milestones. The other alternative they suggest is to wean or hungry baby formula. Breastfeeding not even mentioned. I only joined club for free toy tho . However if I was a first timer And leaa savvy imight believe all they say.

I don't think 'sleeping through' is a reflection of parenting ability, but it may be a reflection of parenting style, and more specifically routine.

I know its a small sample size but in my NCT group of 6, the mothers who are routine-focussed are finding that their little ones are sleeping much longer stretches, whereas the 'attachment-parenting' mothers who co-sleep and feed on demand are not.

I am also in a club of twin mums with 12 members and the vast majority have a routine in place and their little ones are sleeping through. The couple of mums without routines are 'still' feeding at night.

I know that routines and exclusive breastfeeding are probably not compatible, so as a side effect of implementing a routine, most are supplementing or 100% ff.

Neither of mine slept through except as an occasional fluke until about 11/12 months. One was BF, one was FF. It's not about the milk they receive, IMHO. Just whether or not the baby will do it.

FWIW both my 3 and 4 yo's keep waking at least once a night at the moment. They don't need different milk either.

ceeveebee I agreed with you until i had my own

all the children i nannied for (in 10 years) slept through easily and by about 3m (and were all in sameish routine)

My baby was also in the same-ish routine.... and she certainly did not sleep thorough until much later.

I thought it was going to be easy..... "do X Y Z and they sleep".... my baby showed me that it was not always as easy as that though (much to my shock / horror!!!!)

I do agree that having a routine makes it much more likely that they sleep through earlier (than for example co-sleeping) but it is certainly not a given, even with the routine... and at now at nearly 6m old she has slept through a few times

I think my NCT group must be extremely lucky, all our babies (15-20 weeks) now sleep at least a 6 hour stretch at night.

4 EBF, 2 MF and 2 FF, none of us give water at night though.

either they are all extremely lucky piemaker or they may not be telling the whole truth.

I find people can have very different interpretations of sleeping through and if you dig a little deeper you'll find very few babies actually sleep 7-7. I have a friend who's DD 'sleeps through' 7-7, although she does have a feed at 11 and is often up at 5

it amazes me how aptimal think baby "should" sleep through by 17 weeks

yet my boots "now your baby is 6m email" says your baby might be sleeping 6 - 8 hours!

My friend says her ds has slept through the night since birth but what she means is that she cosleeps, he just latches on rather than fully waking/crying for milk and feeds in his sleep a few times a night.

To her that's sleeping through so she tells people he does. I do the exact same with DD but if asked if she sleeps through I say no because I'm still feeding at night.

Perception has a lot to do with it.

DD1 is 3.1 and still wakes at night - nightmares, cold, needs a drink. You get used to it.

I think giving water to a 12 week old baby just to "break the habit of night feeding" is cruel tbh.

Wonder if GF would like to replace a couple of her meals, snacks and drinks with water to break the habit?

When will society accept normal infant behaviours rather than viewing them as habits to be broken?

My three have all never slept for more than 2-3 hours at a time until they were over 2yo. One of my HV said don't worry and that in her experience "clever babies don't sleep"

"clever babies don't sleep" I love it! Right or wrong, what an ace HV to be so supportive!

Course I guess my DS1's a thicko and DS2's a genius then .

But seriously, so nice to hear of a HV who understands that babies frequently don't sleep long periods until they're quite old and while it's tough for the parents, it's right for the baby and artificially changing it is not necessarily safe or healthy.