'you must have your knockers scraping the floor by now!' Breastfeeding Bingo Time!

[Kveta]

and other things you don't want to hear your grandmother say...

were said to me yesterday, by my 88 yo grandmother, who is APPALLED that DS is still bfed. and OUTRAGED and DISGUSTED and REPULSED.

And I am now DOING IT ENTIRELY FOR YOUR OWN PLEASURE because a 2.5 yo DOES NOT NEED BREAST MILK. And I will STILL BE FEEDING HIM WHEN HE'S AT UNIVERSITY. And I WILL HARM THE BABY (am pg at the moment), and CAUSE SIBLING RIVALRY if still feeding DS when DD arrives.

Anyone else got a full house when playing breastfeeding bingo? (I think there are different terms in extended bfing bingo vs just bfing bingo btw. but you get the idea :o)

ooh you're pregnant? Congratulations :o

that's not a bingo term Stealth :o and thanks :) 24 weeks now!

Your milk will go sour like lemon juice you know. And you can't feed two at once, its not physically possible.

88 or not, she's being rude and undermining, and if it was my grandma, I'd tell her so :)

did she say bitty? Because if not you don't get the bonus point

Sorry, you didn't get a "formula is just as good/better than breastmilk" so I don't think you get quite a full house.

aww, she didn't say bitty :(

I got the 'why not use formula, he's obviously hungry and needs more than just breast milk?' a LOT when he was smaller (he was a ridiculously voracious feeder, to be fair).

Have had the 'you can't feed 2 at once' from DH, and explained the concept of twins to him :o Poor man, he just gets more and more fed up with it daily, but knows better than to argue. Just the occasional 'please think about weaning him before baby arrives'. So I think, and carry on as I am :o

tiktok she has ishues with bfing for some reason, so I have given up telling her where to take her opinions, and now just laugh at them!

Kveta - that sounds like a really shit morning (I don't normally swear but I think this deserves it!).

I just wonder how your DH has gone all this time without noticing the two breasts you have? He must be really pleased now you have told him you have two breasts

Not on the bingo list but my grandmother "does not like babies feeding after about 6m" cause its "just not natural or normal"

My Mum today (who knows only too well my VERY strong opinions regarding breast / cow (formula) milk, when having a moan about my 5m old baby waking at night... "do you think now is the time to stop BFing and switch to formula?"
Me, No, my baby is not a cow

My grandmother told me to 'Hurry up and lose that baby weight'

(My dd is 7 weeks old and I put on about 2 stone in pregnancy)

I said 'I am eating healthily but I need to make sure I eat enough so my milk doesnt suffer'

She said 'Don't worry about that, you get thin again and if your milk suffers you give that baby formula'

Nice to know she has her priorities right.

I went to see her at the weekend and she offered me a bacon sandwich but told me she would be cutting the fat off the bacon and I wasn't allowed any margarine on my bread...

nannyl my SISTER who is a nurse, thinks bfing past 6 months is 'abusive and wrong'. Sadly she thinks I'm a lentil weaving hippy who isn't to be trusted, so I cannot convince her otherwise (her fiance is a paid up Daily Mail/Tory boy and will not hear a word of sense).

Mark yep, I get the 'lose the baby weight' thing too. which is fair enough, I am LARGE :o

Truth to be fair to DH he has been tremendously supportive of extended bfing so far, but is a bit fed up with it, as it's pretty much unheard of in his country - so the poor bloke has his family and friends going 'yuk' at the thought of bfing past 6 months, my family doing much the same - and his wife ignoring the lot of them. I do see his point of view! Especially as we agreed that DS wouldn't feed past 2 years :o Oops

Only joshing you. Anyway you haven't nursed past 2ys - he's not three yet is he? I'm glad your DH is supportive of you, I imagine it would be even tougher if you got 'isn't it just for you now' type comments in your own home from your OH.

Perhaps DS will go off bfing soon as you mentioned you have colostrum now - some children don't like colostrum's taste and wean then. DD3 seems to be in a funny mood with my 'bahs' as she keeps telling me 'no bah milk mummy' and when I show her there is milk she says 'No milk' and makes a funny face. I don't think she will last much longer and she is only 2.4y.

I love to read people saying she's only 2.4y! That's totally genuine as I am getting really pissed off annoyed with people telling me I need to stop keeping her a baby and breastfeeding but she is only 9 months so she is a baby!!!!!

My DHs Gran asked me if I would be poping a boob through the school fence but as I was about to reply DH said no way she will probably only want a bedtime feed by then

Great answer from your DH cowboy
I feel very lucky that my family are supportive

Kveta - I would be more concerned about your sister's views, particularly as she is a HCP! In all likelihood she's never had any lessons on breastfeeding (it isn't part of the nursing course afaik), but because she's a HCP, she thinks her opinions hold more weight.

I would probably just smile indulgently the next time your 88 year old grandmother says something - I really don't think it's worth pulling her up on her views!

Well done for bfing so long.

Sincere congrats on the pregnancy. Look I breastfed mine till umm nearly four (DD) and three and a half (DS) and heard all that and more. Including tandem feeding obviously because of the age gap (20 months). I heard all of that and more and frankly, by the fourth year they run out of steam or I have smacked them around the head enough with scientific reasons why they are wrong, always have been wrong and are just actually RUDE that they shut the fuck up. :)

Ignore, smile sweetly and if you can't ignore, insist they actually learn something about breastfeeding before they speak to you again.

cowboylover - I 'think' DD2 is also nursing and she is only 4.2y - though I can't remember when exactly she had her last nurse (probably last week sometime) so she may well have weaned now. Only time will tell if she wants to nurse again so I'll not count my chickens!

After me saying DD3 didn't want 'bah' she has 3 feeds over night! Her eczema is horrendous and she wakes up every 30-60mins crying it's itchin' so 'bah' calms her down and gets her sleepy enough to drop off without scratching herself to ribbons (though her compression garments did have blood all over the ankles and knees where she had raked her skin open).

I'm glad your DH is supportive - it makes life so much easier when your OH has your back!

ahh ds1 is only 3.11, no signs of stopping, and my dm informed me at 6 wks that if I gave him cooled water when he woke up early he would quickly start to sleep longer. WTF besides involving getting up and faffing while the baby cries how on earth does this work. Df asked if I was still bothering with all that at 12wks, been ignored since. Mil was suprised I was still bf when they were eating actual food and wondered off in an embarressed manner when I fed ds1 on his first birthday after going round tropical world. It was humid and 40 degrees and he didn't want his water.

MarkStretch - silly woman!
I'm eating twice as much as i did while I was PG in order to BF well, and I've not got loads of fat.
Do they honestly think it's fat and not just leftovers from pregnancy?

and Keta - ignore your DH's comments, in fact leave the bastard tell him categorically that you will do the best for your (joint) child. and that includes BFing until you are both ready to stop it.

"You'll have to go to school with her."

O really, Mum, were you thinking we'd be using a boarding school, OR HAVEN'T YOU NOTICED that she goes to nursery and I go to work????

My DS is 18mo, and when people ask 'you're still breastfeeding?! How much long are you planning on doing it for?!' I say, 'well... I think I'll definitely stop when he gets stubble...' that shuts them up ha ha

Ha ha Super; my DSis keeps asking me how long I'm going to BF for (DS is 6m) every time I speak to her, DH says next time she asks he's going to say "oh, til he's 15 or 16"!