worried about the amount my 11 week old is feeding

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my DD has just turned 11 weeks old. During the last week or 2 she seems to have cut down on both daytime and nighttime feeds and when she does feed quite a few of the feeds are quite short (sometimes only 15-20 min and refuses 2nd breast) So far her weight gain has been fine (8.15 at birth and was 13.1 when weighed a couple weeks ago)
However in the last few days her poos which used to be at least 3-4 during day have reduced dramatically, wednesday didnt poo at all, yesterday only 1 and today hasnt pooed. Plenty of wet nappies though. She seems very alert and content, I feed on demand whenever she seems hungry and always offer extra feeds if feel she hasnt taken much during day although usually she refuses and gets angry if I try and make her feed when she doesnt want it.
I have posted before asking for advice a few weeks ago as felt she was feeding too much so it seems silly that now she has cut down im now worried that it isnt enough. I dont have any friends who breastfed and this is my first child, although my mum breastfed me her advice tends to be just to stop worrying!
basically im just after reassurance that my baby wont starve and that she is getting enough milk, should I be concerned over the lack of dirty nappies ??

Your Mum's advice sounds spot on, but I know it's hard to do that. DS regularly went up to 10 days or so with no poos so I don't think this in itself is anything to worry about. Feeding patterns will change over the weeks and it can be hard to adjust, but provided you are offering on demand and your DD is content/hydrated etc then I really do think your Mum is right. Give it a couple of weeks and things will change again.

Yep - your mum's right :) All sounds fine.

only 15-20mins

DS has never done a 15 min feed in his life

honestly though as others said, all normal :) I found DD has sudden jumps when she got more efficient at feeding.

(meant DS is a short feeder 4-5 mins)

thanks everyone for your replies. I will try and relax more and accept everything is ok

PengiunArmy - wow 4-5 min thats impressive. I know that babies all feed for different lengths of time I think the reason I worry is i was told by midwife after having her that she needs to be feeding for at least 40 min, 20 min each side to make sure she got enough milk (the same person who also encouraged topping up with formula as colostrum wasnt enough for a hungry baby apparently) and although i now know this not to be true I still think in the back of my mind Im still obsessing over this 40 min thing (I used to time feeds in the early days! )

Its so awful that the first advice and support you got was tosh.

Its important to make sure newborns are doing plenty of poos but by the time they get to this age its normal for some of them to go ages inbetween, something to do with the gut maturing I think. I remember worrying when it happned with ds. It will probably be epic when it comes...

It doesnt sound like that mw knows anything about bf... and and at her suggesting top ups so early - I really hope this isn't routine advice she is dishing out, if so, someone needs to tackle her about this before she ruins anyones chances of successfully bf. Maybe when things settle down a bit for you you might feel you could speak to someone about this?

The longest feed my DS has EVER done EVER is 16mins total both boobs (I only timed accidentally). And he has successfully made it to 15mo still alive.