Would it be unreasonable to leave DS2 with DH even though he refuses to feed?

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Hi,

DS2 (18 weeks) has been a very difficult feeder, gave up breastfeeding at 10 weeks, bottle feeding a nightmare, still not good enough weight gain, etc.

Things seem to have settled recently, still tricky to feed but he will not feed for DH (or anyone else for that matter).

Would like to go out for a few hours/spend time with DS1 (3years) or go to the gym. I was thinking that if i left him with DH he would eventually feed when hungry enough?

Is that awful/unreasonable?

Hi - I had to leave DS1 with DH from 15 weeks when I went back to work. He didn't have any "issues" feeding [greedy hog emoticon] but sometimes at first DH would try to hold him off an expressed bottle feed because I was due back in say 10 mins and he didn't want to use up the "precious" expressed milk - of course DS1 would then be upset and be that bit harder to settle. And I felt a heel - leaving my precious baby etc. We changed our routine pretty quickly!

Have you thought about gradually getting him used to DH feeding him? Say you sit together at first, then maybe DH could hold the bottle, then you could move on to have him sitting on DH's knee while you are beside them ... then move on to taking yourself elsewhere in the house and see how DH gets on. I do appreciate it's not easy for both parents to be tied up when there are other DCs around - but I do think you'll have more longterm chance of success if you are confident when you leave the house that your baby is not going to be hungry and upset.

Alternatively you could start by going out straight after a feed, say for an hour, and build up from there?

Good luck, let us know how you get on.