Feeling trapped

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DD is 9 weeks on Tuesday and BF is going well. I've been expressing milk for if and when I have to leave her on the odd occasion but getting her to take a bottle is proving extremely difficult.

This is making me now feel horribly trapped and I'm starting to feel fixated on her taking a bottle. I wouldn't be happy with the idea of leaving her without being confident that she would take a bottle.

Feeling very tearful about this. :(

Have you tried a different teat? Could be that they need one where the milk comes out at a different speed?

I expect you are knackered. The sole responsibility thing really got to me too. Have you tried not being there when she is given the bottle?

hi, my dd is 4 months and has never been persuaded to take a bottle. In the end after trying a few different bottles and teats I decided to give up. I'm hoping that she will soon take a cup.
Instead of stressing, I just try and remind myself that it is only a few months and the time is going very quickly.
However I'm lucky I don't have to leave her, eg for work at the moment so although my social life is buggered it is copeable.

We've tried Mam teats, number 1 at first and now number 2. The idea being that I have quite a fast and forceful letdown so a faster flow might be better. Today she took a tiny bit from the number 2 teat but she was quite upset in the end.

We've also tried Tommee Tippee ones and I know they are supposed to resemble a breast but there's no way my nipple looks like that and she really didn't like that one though I know lots of other people have had success with them.

HumphreyCobbler, I'm not tired physically per se but I am finding it mentally knackering that I might not even be able to have a couple of hours respite.

bunnybunyip I am self-employed as well as employed and if self-employment work comes up, I really should take it as it would pay so well that it would be better for DD's future if I took it. Also I enjoy the work I do.

She'll be ok without a bottle for a couple of hours - whoever looks after her can use other ways to comfort her. I know it doesn't mean you can go for a big night out but it does allow you to have a lie-in, go shopping, get your haircut etc. Hopefully she'll start doing a longer stretch of sleep at bedtime too so you can go out then.

It's sod's law isn't it. I was so worried that I wouldn't be able to bf her properly and I find that I can and now she doesn't want anything but.

That is because you are so good at it .

Ds was like this and giving up on trying the bottle was so good for me. By about 4 months he was fine for about 3 hours - obviously this will depend on your baby but honestly when you are there yes they want to bf all the time but if you aren't and someone fun is entertaining them, they will wait til you get back.

Get your bag and everything ready beforehand, feed and hand over baby and leg it. Even an hour to walk on your own will help with the trapped feelings.

doctor Brown ones are good - we used them and Lo liked them. Worht a go?