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Number for NCT breastfeeding counsellors?

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Em32 · 17/01/2006 08:43

Does anyone have this please? Dd is refusing to feed and I'm fed up with it. She had one side at 3.15am last night (after her last feed at 7pm) and now doesn't want any. Surely she must be hungry by now? I can't force her to feed - do I just wait? I'm finding this really hard as I have a 2 year old to fit round as well and stuff to do round the house. Everyone is encouraging me to change to bottles but it isn't what I want to do.

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Em32 · 17/01/2006 08:52

Have found it but can't get through - any support appreciated in the meantime.......

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FrannytheQuinoaEater · 17/01/2006 08:55

What age is she Em? I'll find some alternative numbers for you in the meantime...

FrannytheQuinoaEater · 17/01/2006 08:57

La Leche League 0845 1202918 You'll get an experienced mother in your area who has breastfed her own children on that number.

Never used the following one but Breastfeeding Network: 0870 900 8787

SoupDragon · 17/01/2006 09:08

The national NCT bf-ing hotiline no. is 0870 444 8708 in case you didn't have it right.

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Em32 · 17/01/2006 10:24

Franny she's 20 weeks. She's a lovely baby, very smily, content and hardly ever cries but she's driving me mad with the feeding as I have no idea when she's going to ask for it now. I like my routine and to be able to do things in between and this is really hard for me (maybe that's the problem - me, rather than her but it is hard with two of them)

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FrannytheQuinoaEater · 17/01/2006 10:58

Did you get to speak to anyone Em? It's so important to get support if you want to continue but feel like everyone is trying to convince you to stop.

Is she just on milk at the moment? She didn't have anything else that could be filling her up in the morning, did she? (like a bacon butty for instance )

lact8 · 17/01/2006 11:43

bacon butty v funny!!! hi em, think you could be right about you liking your routine and frustrated that she's not co-operating with it. i've got ds2 nearly 2 and dd is 4 weeks old and breastfeeding her so i understand how much easier it is if you have some sort of idea how the day is going to go. I know its easy for me to say don't worry but if she's still her usual happy contented self i wouldn't be too concerned, she'll let you know soon enough when she's hungry! i would phone one of the helplines though, for your own peace of mind more than anything. Stick to your guns about not giving her a bottle. Good luck, hope she feeds soon or your boobs be exploding!

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Em32 · 17/01/2006 13:52

Franny, nope - she does have a little bit of baby rice and one cube of puree late afternoon but that's it (she wolfs that down - if bf came in solid form on a spoon she'd be happy as larry )

Spoke to someone from NCT just now but their advice re 'get under a blanket naked with her and when she feels like it she'll have some' doesn't quite work when you've got a 2 year old, cooking/ironing etc to do does it? Nice idea though.... Still I will just keep trying. She's still happy and sleeping normally etc so I guess she's ok.

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lact8 · 17/01/2006 14:58

advice to get under a blanket as funny as bacon butty comment!

DissLocated · 17/01/2006 15:10

Hang in there Em - as I said on your other thread dd was exactly the same, it reduced me to tears on a regular basis. You can't force her to feed and I'm sure that changing to a bottle wouldn't make any difference. Dd just suddenly sorted herself out in her own time.

tiktok · 17/01/2006 15:38

Can I just defend the NCT counsellor ?

She will have made this suggestion not for Em to do this now, and not at the expense of the toddler's needs, but as something Em might do when it is possible for her to do it...it's actually a very good idea to rry and many babies do indeed 'come round' when the breastfeed is offered just as part of a cuddle!

lact8 · 17/01/2006 16:21

i understand that it is good idea, i spend evening cutched up on sofa with dd and blanket but wouldnt dream of trying it during daytime with ds2 around....and especially not the naked bit!! it just seems impractical advice for em

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Em32 · 17/01/2006 19:30

I wasn't really criticising the NCT counsellor - she was very supportive at least. I was just having a little dig as it did seem pretty impractical. (I have a bit of a dry sense of humour)

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lact8 · 17/01/2006 22:20

hi em, hope everything ok with baby. i wasnt trying to have a go at nct, the advice just conjured up mental image of how my 2 yr old would have reacted and made me lol. keep on trying with her, good luck

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Em32 · 18/01/2006 10:31

Hello Lact8 I know you weren't having a go at the NCT. Thanks for the support and glad someone else has a sense of humour on here!. It made me think of similar advice I was given by a bf counsellor (not NCT this time) when ds was a few months - which was to feed him in the bath. He took 45 to 60 minutes to feed so we would have been freezing by the end of that and a bit prune like....
Dd didn't have full feed until 3pm (when she took enough that I could her little belly sloshing around with all the milk in it) Unfortunately she woke up at 12.30am and 5am (dh tried to settle her but after 1/4 hour I gave in and she had a small feed and went back to sleep) Now usual story and she's back to not feeding this morning. I guess somehow I need to stop the second night feed but I'm not sure how to do it. Ds slept through from 12 weeks (7pm to 6ish) and has always been a brilliant sleeper so I've no idea how to tackle this.

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lact8 · 18/01/2006 18:19

hi em, glad that she's fed at last even if not when you wanted her to! it must be hard after having such a civilised baby first time round ( so much sleep, lucky you[SMILE]. I hope this helps put things in perspective, DS1, bf til 19 mths, always woke every 2 hrs til at least 9 mths old. didn't sleep full night til he went to school. Ds2 also bf, fed every 2 hrs til bout 4 mths and didn't sleep thru til 9 mths. DD 5 weeks, bf and sleeping for wales! guess what i'm trying to say is that they're all different and all have their own ways of doing things. Again its not very practical advice but don't think she's doing anything that should cause you concern for her physical wellbeing but will play hell with yours! i understand how hard it is with 2 yr old and baby so you've got my sympathy. and thats before household stuff added to the equation!

why do all suggestions from bf associations involve getting nakid?!? last thing i feel like doing post pregnancy!

lact8 · 18/01/2006 18:22

also wondered if introduction of rice etc confused her a bit? might just take her a while to get used to changes?

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