Do I trust my baby is taking what he needs, ds3 is refusing top ups.

[Lollyheart]

ds3 is 14 weeks, he is breastfed with ebm top ups.
He is now refusing the bottle, he screams when I try and put the bottle in his mouth.
I've stopped expressing now as the milk is just going to waste.
I feel full and uncomfortable all the time, he only feeds for a few mins, he won't go back on after hes been winded etc. His nappies are wet but not as wet iykwim. He hasn't had a poo since dropping the top ups, he only goes once a week anyway so not worried about that.
He's full of cough and cold atm as well.
He's happy Inbetween feeds and seems satisfied.
I can't win, I wanted to just bf and not faff around with expressing and bottles, now he's done that all I do is seem to worry if he's getting enough.
I'm also worried where he is poorly and not feeding much my supply will adjust to thinking he doesn't need much and when he's better the milk won't be there.
Do I trust him that he is taking enough? And my supply won't reduce?.

I don't understand about topping up but "happy" and "seems satisfied" sounds good. You could always take him for a weigh in to see how he's growing.

Yes, and yes :)

He will probably not want as much with the cold (it tends to go that they feed like nutters or they drop right off). Either way your milk supply will be fine as we're designed to cope with our babies fluctuating like this.

Just go with what he seems to want :)

Take a deep breath and stop expressing. He obviously doesn't want the top ups. You will feel much better if you do

It can be a leap of faith to drop top ups. It sounds like he is under the weather and this has coincided with bottle refusing, which is not uncommon at any age. I think if I were you I would pay close attention to how your son is - alert and happy when awake, feeding reasonably frequently and not showing any signs of dehydration, in particular dry nappies or strong urine. A lot of babies reduce the amount they feed when they are ill and supply may be temporarily affected but the answer is to feed feed feed, which is what he will probably want to do when he is back to his normal self anyway.

Fwiw fussy feeding at 14 weeks is often the beginnings of teething and simple remedies and teething gel can make a huge difference.