mears - I have seen that site, thanks. it's really helpful and that's how I first heard about the domperidone.
good idea on printing out the info for our GP. I will try it. They know our situation so hopefully will be supportive. that is strange about the dosage - obviously I'd rather take less if it still has the same effect. will try with the higher dose first and then try to cut down, assuming the higher dose works.
The hospital has been completely useless btw and the doctors there have said they cannot even discuss anything with us now that both I and baby have been discharged. they would not even represcribe medications for baby once he was out (even though they said that he definitely needs them for his condition), so there's no way at all they would do it for me. they are very pro-breastfeeding but not at all geared up to help in situations where expressing is required. they did not have electric pumps available to use even for mums with babies on the NICU (where mine was for 2 weeks), let alone in special care (we had another 4 weeks there).
I am trying the various tips from this website and others and yes, I have a double pump, and am pumping about 6 times a day. unfortunately I'm just not able to rest/pump/do skin-to-skin as much as I would like since I have a pre-school child as well, and DH works very long hours. tried to start occasional (once or twice daily) direct breastfeeds a few weeks back, which went ok for a little while, but ended up with severe blocked ducts and my son screaming for more after feeding for an hour, which I assume was due to him not latching on properly. so in the interests of avoiding mastitis and related complications (my son has MRSA in his throat which is one of the reasons we're in this situation in the first place), we've gone back to expressing only for the moment.
thanks again for the helpful ideas.