13 month old daughter - BF help needed please

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I don't feed her during the day, haven't done for 2 months or so. Mainly because we are busy / working etc but I was feeding her last thing at night and if she woke in the night, and then she comes in our bed and co sleeps - I can't say what time she does this. She feeds then while we co sleep.

Well. Life has deteriorated massively. She no longer sleeps. She falls asleep on boob and then wakes every hour, or more often - and is unsettle able even if I feed her, then she comes in our bed an just sharks my boobs - she also has to feed from one and HOLD the other in a pincer grip. If I take other nipple out of her hand, she screams. I've become a dummy and a comforter haven't I?

I'm pregnant again, 7 weeks - and am finding it really hard, exhaustion is terrible and nausea is a killer, but not even getting 2 hours in a row at night. Hell.

Could well be the 13 month developmental leap / sleep regression.

More info here and here.

If it is, it should improve on its own. But it does sound hideous.

Twiddling (the pincer thing you describe) is normal, It will soon evolve into full on feeding gymnastics.

I have no Idea why babies like to do this but they just do.

Everything that AngelsfromtherealmsofgloryDog said is spot on.

Right I need to sort out day time naps.

What should she be sleeping? I will enforce napping as of tomorrow.

Also, the feeding at night - I don't know I can go on like this. I literally am becoming an angry exhausted nightmare

It's supposed to stimulate a faster flow, I think.

If it were daytime I'd suggest introducing some nursing manners, but that would be hard work at night.