Stopping b.f'ing 18mo is heart wrenching!!:( Support needed please..

[mammainlove]

DD is nearly 18m.o, I'm 3 months pregnant with DC2. She took to weaning to just nap and bed times really well. Recently it's started to really hurt when I feed her, I don't know if this is because my boobs are more sensitive when I'm pregnant, or that she's having to suck harder because there's less milk, either way it's made me dread feeding her and grit my teeth when I do, then making her stop after a couple of minutes (also I'm worried about her biting as she has done sometimes). Tonight I made her stop after about half a minute as I was just so scared and in pain.

On one hand it feels right to stop now, but on the other I feel deeply sad and guilty to see her suffer and deprive her of what I believe is the best thing for her!(nutritionally and psychologically) I have adored and felt so proud to be able to feed her for the past 18 months, I feel soo sad to bring this amazing chapter of our lives to an end. She is my world, I'm so in love with her and like every mum, only want the best. I dread stopping completely and refusing to feed her, she loves it so much and I'm scared she's going to be really upset.

Just marking my place - am still bf 18 month old ds but am ready to stop now, thinking of ttc next dc too. I have the same issue that ds settles for nap with other people ie childminder, but if I am around he will want milk. Love snuggling with him do have been too scared to do cc or anything, and he also doesn't drink masses of cows milk, but does have plenty of yogurts and cheese etc. wish there was just an easy way of weaning him off where I don't feel like any evil mummy

Good luck op, hopefully we will get there in the end

Should add he only feeds around 5 in the morning (and then if he us in bed with me will want another about 7 if I am not up), another at 1pm nap time then next one is to sleep at 8pm. Mid afternoon he will have A varying amount of milk with a slice of toast etc.
However when he had a cold a couple of weeks ago, all he wanted was bf, so obviously it's the comfort factor too

Hi eclair
I'm not sure from your post whether ttc is driving you wanting to stop bfing. If so, just so you know it is v possible to get pregnant while bfing an older baby. There certainly used to be a thread in the conception board for those ttc while bfing which might have useful info if you're interested.

Of course if you want to stop anyway, I will remove my sticky beak.

I think our weaning process was definitely speeded up (is that the correct grammar??) by my milk disappearing. Even when it first went DD enthusiastically dry nursed for a good few weeks. But then finally gave up!!

Hi kd, thanks for your message- basically I am ready to stop bf and want my body back for a while. Have loved bf but want to get into some of my lovely tops I currently can't wear due to big boobs . Only initially planned to bf for few weeks so am glad have managed to do if for so long. But you have to set them free some day

Well when my milk went my boobs certainly got smaller! Which I wasn't actually happy with. But I hope to bf DC2 so should get my boobs back!!

:(

Are you sad about my lack of boobs mama or is something else up?

I really feel for you mammain,

My dd was 21.5 mo when she stopped nursing (much later than all my mum friends). I was so grateful that it just fizzled out, and we didn't have to go through any traumatic withdrawal.

That was nearly 9 months ago and I still miss it a lot... :(

Big hugs, I hope it gets easier xx