I want to wean my DD (2.10). Can you help?

[KellyKettle]

I am tandem feeding DD1 (2.10) and 6 week old DD2. I hate it and it's become a daily battle with DD which just can't go on anymore.

So I need some advice on how to wean a toddler. We've started night weaning and although it's been two weeks, she still wakes demanding milk between 4-6am (usually one waking for 10 mins or so).

I don't want to do don't offer don't refuse because that could take years.

I'm regretting ever bf her in the first place at the moment.

Good point greensnail - I never thought of doing that next time the heebie geebies strikes I'll give that a try. Thanks!

Good morning everyone. Thank you so much for the messages and Snail thanks for the email. I read it feeding DD2 at 2am but couldn't reply properly. I will though

I am getting the keys for our new house today so may not be able to reply properly for a day or so.

So last night DD1 fed to sleep at 8pm which was fine. DD2 was still asleep so I just put her in bed with me and we all slept. No screaming from DD2 at all last night.

Then at 9:30pm the silhouette of DH appeared at the end of the bed, he'd driven back early.

DD1 stirred at 6:30am and muttered "not milk, cuddle" and snuggled into me.

DH came and woke us all at 7:45am. DD1 has just had some milk (which was fine) but has now gone downstairs with DH to make breakfast.

I feel like a new woman today. It will probably all go out of the window tonight but for now, things are better.

I will reply properly to the posts on here later/ASAP.

Oh, good Point from truthsweet about distracting yourself - I used to make sure I had a good book to hand or sit near the computer

Oh god leeloo that's just so lovely... sob

Kelly really glad you feel a bit more positive. it'll be good to have dh as back up. good luck with the house move!

Hope the house move has gone well, Kelly, and you're still feeling more positive. We clearly have a lot of parallels in our lives - we're about to move house too (fingers crossed before Christmas). Hoping when we have a bigger second bedroom to get another double bed, so that we can be a bit more flexible in sleeping arrangements- and dh is definitely looking forward to not being on the floor any more, hopefully he'll sleep with dd1 unless she is desperate for me and I'll sleep with dd2. (And ideally we might even start the night in the same bed!).

Kelly, I really wanted to apologise for posting before and then never responding again . Our computer is rather unpredictable and it has been taking me forever just to check my e-mails, so haven't had the luxury of mumsnet too . Seems a bit better today. Anyway, I'm glad you've been feeling more positive since starting this thread, and have received lots of helpful/supportive replies; how are you going now? Do you still intend to wean dd1? It sounds like your dh will be able to help, and if she asked for a cuddle instead off milk, that sounds promising - dd1 has never done that! I still have times when I desperately want to totally wean dd1 now and if it could be done easily I would, but I just don't think dd1 is ready. Not thinking about it too much seems to be my best option I think!