8 week old relentless feeding

[BelinaTheChicken]

Wasn't sure if this should go here or in parenting

DS2 is not happy unless he has a boob in his mouth, he won't sleep duringthe day because as soon as I put him down he wakes up and starts screaming to be picked up. In the few minutes I get when he's settled I have to rum round like a maniac getting DS's meals ready, putting washes on etc, so DS1 is barely getting the attention he needs and my house looks like a shit hole.

Was hoping it was just a growth spurt but it's been going on for weeks now. Tried the sling, but only works if we are out and about, which at leAst gives DS some attention but doesn't help with the house being a wreck.

Really getting stressed now, DS1's behaviour is deteriorating and I don't blame him. Really don't want to leave DS2 to cry as he gets so upset so quickly, but not sure how else I can cope with it.

Have you tried a dummy?

I imagine it's really difficult with two children. With my DD I just get up and fed her whenever she wanted which was pretty much all the time! It got better around 3 months, only to deteriorate during the 4 month growth spurt, but it's again better now at 5 months. Unfortunately the only solution is to try and go with the flow. Sorry I can't help with DS1, can DH or a relative help out a bit more?

Still trying with the dummy but so far he just keeps spitting it out, or won't even let me put it in. He's not slept today, he just seems to have a bit of a snooze whilst he's feeding.

My mum helps me out a lot, we go out and do stuff together so DS1 can have some attention, or go to hers, but she doesn't really come to my house much.

Wandering If I should try to get him into a routine instead of feeding on demand?

I was going to suggest a dummy too before I read your last post. Have you tried warming the dummy first and maybe putting a bit of milk on the end or putting it down your bra for a bit so it has the right smell?

It's a growth spurt, have you looked at Kellymom?, i had this with DD, at about 10 wks, and at other times. It's entirely normal knackering.You sound like your doing great,HTH.

What kind of dummy are you using? Lots of babies don't like the flat, silicone orthodontic ones but are happy with the cherry latex type. I had to persevere with offering ds one for a while before he took it.

If your ds is a big comfort sucker then I'm not sure routine feeding will make any difference - surely he'll want to comfort suck whenever he is tired, bored or unhappy regardless of schedule?

Hmm, milk on the dummy could work, will try next time he looks willing!

Hope it is just a growth spurt, was worried that I'd let him get into bad habits after last growth spurt. He doesn't seem to have had much time not on a growth spurt! He's a chubber

You say he's good in the sling if your out and about, how is he if you put him in the sling and do stuff around the house. Often fussy baby's like to be bounced/moved around to sleep. Have you tired feeding in the sling?

Even my realtivly chilled DS would get fussy if I tired to sit down with him in the sling or standing still for to long. This mite help with the house.

Also there is lots you can do with your older one, one handed while feeding the baby, maybe have a few special toys you only get out at feeding time. Or a box with intersting stuff in he'd like to play with. Plus reading stories is quit possible one handed to.

Good luck it is hard with two.

Rita he has the orthodontic ones so will try the cherry ones. Was thinking about routine as I'm going back to work on night shifts soon and don't want DH to be up all night when I'm at work, was hoping a routine would make it easier for him to change to bottle, and I don't want him feeding all night cos then I'll have no chance of expressing enough to keep up with him.