BF 19 week old won't settle for anyone but me!

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DD in full throes of sleep regression and just been through a growth spurt so her sleeping through the night has completely gone to pot.

However, I could cope with this better if she would settle in evenings. She has her bath about 7 and then I give her a good 30 min feed and she falls asleep (if I try to put her down 'sleepy but awake' she screams to high heaven). Invariably she will wake again after 10 mins and refuses to settle for DP. She'll scream until I feed her again. This pattern repeats itself til about 10ish and she'll eventually zonk out for a couple of hours.

Have tried DP giving her a bottle of EBM and she's not interested. Ditto dummy. I know it's anecdotal, but 2 friends of mine introduced a bottle of formula for their evening feeds at this stage and it worked for them. Without any intended criticism of ff, I really don't want to do this. However, at my wits end for what else to do. Have an evening out planned at end of the month, and at this rate I can't see me being able to leave her.

Any advice much appreciated.

Shift work with DP?

The end of the month is a long time away in baby terms. It may well have chnaged by then without you doing anything about it. :)

my DD wouldn't settle for anyone else either. I just went for routine, routine, routine. But if having a growth spurt I did just have to deal with it. Sometimes, I think I fed her to shut her up, and not sure if I could have comforted her any other way. SHe did go down pretty well from 10 weeks on, but now we have major regression (nearly 14 months) and I haven't changed the routine one iota, but she has been ill.... gah.

I think you've still got time, just keep going with the routine. Try and drag it out without feeding straight away if poss (shush-pat etc never worked for me though)

Reading this, it sounds rubbish, so I'm pretty sure I've been no help, but good luck!!

Actually, I had this with DS, but it wasn't a bf issue. He was quite happy to be got to sleep by some means other than feeding - but only I could manage the required technique to bounce / jiggle / rock / pat, although the sling worked for DH for naps.

If she doesn't take a bottle of EBM from your DP, I suspect it's unlikely she'd take a bottle of formula so that might not be an option for you anyway.

Could you take her with you to the evening out? Would she sleep in a sling?

Thank you for the rep lies and sorry that I seem to have posted this twice - put it down to sleep deprivation.

Smeared DP gets quite upset when she is hysterical in his arms. He's almost in tears because he literally can't do anything to calm her eg rocking, patting, sling etc. She just kicks off until she sees me and then she calms down. We've tried me going out but he rang after 30 mins saying she had screamed the whole time.

Dream Thank you, am going to persevere with routine.

Angel Unfortunately can't take her. Works Xmas do and I'm really looking forward to seeing my colleagues. I do hope it will settle down soon, otherwise fear I may never be able to leave her!

Hi there, I really sympathise with you, I had the same problem from with DS from about 14 weeks to 22 weeks! ( he ended up
coming on a hen do with me because I couldn't leAve him!) anyhow he is now 24 weeks and fine when left with family and bottles so dont lose hope things do change! Things that worked for me were giving him a bottle of expressed milk at same time every day, only 2ozs , sometimes wouldn't take any but "played" with it and eventually sucked and took some! If he cried id take it away. I left him for the night do of a wedding when he was 20 weeks, i was really stressed about leaving him but fed fed fed him during the day, he didn't take the bottle at the first attempt but a couple of hours later drained a bottle ( so I stayed out another 2 hours ). My theory is he always preferred the booby but if he was hungry and no other option he would take bottle. Good luck xxx ( on phone so apologies for grammar!)