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Will it get better just with time or do I need to do something more?

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Tintini · 04/11/2011 15:58

My baby is 5 weeks old and after initial sore, cracked nipples in week 1, things have improved and my nipples are no longer damaged. I'm fortunate in that i have lots of milk and he's gained loads of weight and has plenty of wet and dirty nappies - brilliant!

But I feel like I've reached a bit of a rut as it's still painful for me. Sometimes the pain is awful, usually it's bearable, occasionally there is no pain. But my nipples always emerge squashed with the 'lipstick' look and then blanch - even when there's no pain.

Feel like I've tried every position possible, exaggerated latching etc but I just can't get any more areola in his mouth. I know the theory, just cannot make it happen! I've been to several breastfeeding support groups and they say the latch looks good, as does my technique for getting him on. But clearly it's still not right. Can't think what more to do.

So my question is, do you think this will get better with time on its own as he gets bigger if I carry on as I am or is there some other technique I should do? (Really can't think what else I can do though!)

One of the midwives told me that i have taught him incorrectly, so if I need to intervene and 'reteach' then obviously I want to do it asap. She suggested taking him off and attempting to relatch but when I do this I will literally do it 40 times with no improvement and a very frustrated baby! Other opposite advice has been to just let him latch as is and it will improve with time.

Definitely no tongue tie, but one midwife said she thought he had quite a high palate.

Any advice or perspectives much appreciated!

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smileitssunny · 04/11/2011 18:22

Posterior tongue tie? I'd ask to be referred if I were you, just in case. Made all the difference with DS. I wish I'd done it earlier!

Tintini · 04/11/2011 18:57

Thanks smile, he can stick his tongue out so they had ruled out tongue tie - do you think it could be a posterior tie though despite this?

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HappyAsASandboy · 04/11/2011 19:07

I had lipstick nipples and blanching from about 4 to 10 weeks. The blanching (vasospasm?) was so painful, and happened when I got out of the bath, removed my bra and after feeding.

I have to admit I read things on here and Kellymom, worried about it and tried to decide what to do for so long, the problem went away before I'd decided what to do.

I can't advise that you ignore it and wait, as there might be something you can do to help ease it. But you might find that it goes away in time.

We're still feeding at just over 12 months, and I can honestly say that it's been no hassle at all once we got over many problems in the first 10 or so weeks. If you can keep ploughing on, it should all settle down and you can enjoy simple no-prep feeding for as long as you like Smile

Mampig · 04/11/2011 20:16

Hello. My ds is 18 wo and my story is same as yours. Got him checked for TT also. They ruled it out. BUT I'm still convinced he has one! I got to the painfree stage pretty quickly- about 3 weeks. Also he was gaining weight very well too. Nipple is still wedge shaped after a feed but not just as badly as before. I live in NI and policy here is not to treat TT unless it's severe and hindering weight gain, so I was stuck. My options were to either give up bf, or persevere, albeit with some pain. I chose to persevere and I'm really happy that I did. We are still ebf and I rarely get pain, and if I do it's cos I've been lazy with latch. That's my experience anyway, hope it helps!

Aboxofmaltesers · 04/11/2011 21:31

I could have written your post 8 months ago........
Loads of milk, loads of feeding, LOADS of cluster feeding in the evening, 1 lb a fortnight weight gain (him not me!!) but despite all this painful nipples.
Like you tried everything but nipples still wedge shaped, white and felt as if someone was rubbing sandpaper on the end of them. Some feeds worse than others.
And then 12 weeks it stopped. Like magic. Maybe because he was bigger? Because it certainly wasn't anything I had done as I'd given up trying.
I know everyone says if it's painful it's not right, well it wasn't wrong for us. Still going strong at 10 months.
Hope it get's better for you too.

Tintini · 05/11/2011 04:41

Thank you. It's really encouraging that it can become less painful with time without specifically 'doing' anything more - mainly because I can't think what else to do! I'l pursue the posterior tongue tie too as I hadn't thought that was a possibility. Thanks again, you've been really helpful!

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smileitssunny · 14/11/2011 23:14

hi tintini sorry for delayed answer. yes it could still be posterior tongue tie, apparently it's really difficult to spot. I didn't believe DS had it until they clipped it! Or it could just be a change of latch position as baby gets bigger? good luck.

scrivette · 15/11/2011 09:52

I was the same, at the clinic they thought it was because he had quite a recessed chin and so didn't manage to latch on correctly, as he got bigger feeding got easier.

MigGril · 15/11/2011 13:05

Some baby's can still stick there tounge out with a TT so you need to get this assested by an expert. It could also be a higharched pallet again a BF counciler could help you with doing a exagurated latch to help with this, if this is the case it will get better with age as he gets bigger but there are ways to help and you shoudln't need to be in pain.

Tintini · 24/01/2012 13:31

Just as an update in case someone is searching the archives for anything about posterior tongue tie and high palate (as I was!). I saw a lactation consultant who said she thought the main problem was the high palate, but he does also have posterior tongue tie. At about 9 weeks it got much less painful on its own so I didn't get the tt snipped. Now at nearly 4 months it's pain free and wonderful!

So thank you everyone who responded - you were all right!

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