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When did u put your baby into their own room?

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CrazyAlien06 · 04/11/2011 07:33

not sure where I should post this question!

Basically my 5 week old DD loves sleeping with her ants and kegs outstretched which she can't do in her basket:(
We don't have room for her cot ( it's a cot bed) in our room so just wondered when people moved their child into a cot in their own room.my house is a small 2 bed and I could hear everything from her room without a monitor!

I'm just concerned what with the cot death guidelines.another 5 months of sleepless nights does not appeal to me

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LoveInAColdClimate · 04/11/2011 07:42

One of the reasons for keeping the baby in your room until six months is because your breathing helps regulate hers - it's not just about you being able to hear her. Is there anyway you could rearrange the furniture or buy a smaller cot that does fit, and is larger than the basket?

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CrazyAlien06 · 04/11/2011 07:51

Nope no way of another place for her to sleep fitting in.I'll just have to continue with no sleep for 5 months! Hope it goes quickly as I'm getting ill without sleep :(

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Rikalaily · 04/11/2011 08:01

I kept my 1st in with me for a year, 2nd for two years, 3rd for nearly three years and the 4th is still in with us at 18 months, will move her into the girls room when she's 3ish probably unless we decide to have another one in the meantime, she's be at least two though.

LoveInAColdClimate is right, you shold keep baby in with you for at least the first 6 months to lower the risk of SIDS. You could put baby in bed with you?

Sleepless nights are inevitable with a baby, no matter which room they are in. At least when they are in with you, you don't have to wander around the house to settle them :)

ThatsNotMyBabyBelly · 04/11/2011 08:10

I understood that the noise of you being in the room with them meant the baby would be in a less deep sleep and so less at risk of sids.

Although if you are putting baby to bed then they will be in any room alone for part of the evening I would assume?

Both mine hated their moses basket, dd1 went into her own room at 5 weeks and dd2 at 6. Both slept much better, although obviously there were still plenty of wakings as you would expect.

I have always left the door wide open, landing light on and used a monitor when downstairs.

However, if you don't feel comfortable in a seperate room then you will spend the majority of the night checking on the baby! Do what you feel comfortable with.

pipoca · 04/11/2011 08:20

DS at 8 weeks, DD after about a week as I couldn't sleep through her snorting and snoring.

TrinityRhino · 04/11/2011 08:23

bout 3 and a half years for all three of them

what about buying a kingsize bed and then co sleeping?

EightiesChickOrTreat · 04/11/2011 08:27

Could you borrow a smaller cot, just for a few months? Or ask on Freecycle?

My DS stayed in our room till 7/8 months. It was actually easier as he was right at hand when he cried, needed a feed etc. He was tiny though so the basket lasted a lot longer than most.

vj32 · 04/11/2011 10:31

9 weeks. He outgrew his moses basket (he is huge!) and kept waking up with his face pressed against the side. In his cotbed he started sleeping better straight away. We too are in a small 2 bed and I wake whenever he makes a noise without the need for a monitor or anything.

I asked a HV about the increase risk of SIDS if they are in their own room - she couldn't tell me anything about the research etc or how much the risk was higher, just kept repeating 'the baby should sleep in your room the first six months' over and over. I told her it was stupid of the NHS to give advice that the majority of people can't follow - how many people have room in their bedroom for a full size cot? Our only option would have been to have him sleep in a travel cot, which in my opinion is more dangerous than proper cot in his own room as the mattress isn't as good.

Like I said though, ds was huge and we moved him because he physically wouldn't fit any more. I would try and wait a few more weeks, at 5 weeks I think he was waking every 2-3 hours anyway, so putting your dd in her cotbed might not make any difference. Maybe you could try putting her in her cot for naps and see if likes it?

ScroobiousPip · 04/11/2011 10:49

About 2.5yo of his own choice, but he is still in with me some nights even now at 3yo. We co-slept pretty much from birth until he was ready to move on - but a superking size bed did help!

lilham · 04/11/2011 11:31

Most I know move the baby out when they outgrew the mosses basket. Like vj32 says, most people can't fit a cot in their bedroom. We don't all live in the ideal world.

OP is your LO swaddled? Maybe if he will be more happy to stay in a small basket if he can't kick his arms and legs?

TruthSweet · 04/11/2011 11:43

We moved DD1 at about 7m, DD2 at around a year and DD3 at 15m.

The current thinking behind the risk of cot death being increased when a baby sleeps alone is down to the baby using your breathing/heart rate/body heat to regulate their own and to prevent very deep sleep (not conducive to baby maintaining their own breathing/heart rate/body temp) not because you might hear them have difficulties of any kind.

Co-sleeping or side car-ing a cot may well be an answer to moving baby into their own room early or could you set up a mattress in baby's room and sleep on that? Travel cots are smaller than ordinary cots so that might be something to consider as well - Graco make a small sized travel cot that might work for you?

1catherine1 · 04/11/2011 12:11

My DD is now 7 months old. When she was born we were in a 1 bedroom flat which had a large bedroom which could hold a cotbed and our bed - it seems we were very lucky. When she was 6 months though we moved to a 2 bed house. She went straight into her own room and has slept pretty well since.

Then when there was a nasty bug going around the nursery I was concerned about her being alone and needing me in the night so I moved her into my small bedroom for a couple of days. I did this by moving all the furniture and having her travel cot (with additional mattress) next to my bed. This was a tight fit, Travel cot had the wall on one side and my bed on the other and both me and OH had to climb from the foot of the bed to get in. I preferred it to the alternative though.

I suppose though there is an alternative solution for you. You could move into your DD room for a few months. :)

SausageSmuggler · 04/11/2011 12:21

We put DS into his own room at a few weeks old because none of us were getting any sleep. What we did though was got a clock that ticked as I read that the sound was good for them in a similar way to hearing their parents breathing. Even though he was only next door we used a sensor mat monitor to put our minds at ease and still brought him back into our room if he was ill.

LoveInAColdClimate · 04/11/2011 12:46

It's something that everyone needs to do their own risk assessment for, really, like everything in life. Personally, and having had personal experience of SIDS (not my own child), I would find a way to share a room until the recommended six months, whether that meant me going into the baby's room with them, sidecar cot, whatever. That's my risk assessment, though, not yours. For me, the actual numerical risk may be low but the stakes are too high. I also know that if I were to disregard the guidelines and the worst were to happen, I would never be able to convince myself it wasn't my fault and could have happened even if I had followed all the guidance. However, I have eaten runny yolked eggs and had a weekly glass of wine in pregnancy. That was my risk assessment on that issue - yours may well have been different. It's up to everyone to weigh up the risks for themselves and decide what is acceptable for them.

Although I have to say I am pregnant with DC1 so haven't yet been kept awake all night by a snuffly baby - but I don't really imagine that changing my mind at this stage, although you never know .

Wiseoldself · 04/11/2011 12:51

How about buying a crib? We didn't use a moses basket and had a crib instead as that lasts a lot longer but is much smaller than a cot, DS2 is in with us now and will be until he is six months.

lollipoppet · 04/11/2011 12:57

I am obviously very controversial as we put dd in her own cot, in her own room on our first night home from hospital. She was absolutely fine, everybody slept well and we have been lucky that she has been a great sleeper (so far!) I think it helped that I had one of those paranoid mummy alarms with the pad under the mattress that makes sure they are still breathing. Have taken that away now though as she is trying her hardest to climb out of the cot!

Montsti · 04/11/2011 13:57

We put DS in his own room at 9 weeks but I was pretty paranoid so had a sensor pad and monitor volume on loud so I could hear every squeak - a bit ridiculous actually seeing as the reason for him going in his own room was that he was such a noisy sleeper that we never slept....

bettieblue · 04/11/2011 14:14

We put ds in own room at 10 weeks when he was too big for his moses basket. I wan't getting any sleep, not because of the frequent wakings, i could have coped with that but the noise, i just lay there not sleeping at all and it was beginning to have an effect on me. Prior to him going in his own room we put him to bed at 7pm so he was alone in the room till we came to bed later on. I bought one of the sensor monitors which although they say doesn't prevent SIDS gave me some piece of mind that we would know if there was something wrong.

At the end of the day you have do what you feel comfortable with.

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CrazyAlien06 · 04/11/2011 15:22

Hi
I can't have baby in with me as DH is a big bloke and a wriggler!- must be where DD gets it from lol.
Lilham She hates being swaddled! Prefers to have the least coverings on her possible!
Friends have suggested trying a sleeping bag so might try that tonight see if that keeps her nice and snuggly.

I don't really feel too comfortable with her away from me , if I could invest in some ear plugs that are not too good I would lol The noises are so disturbing!

I know that I will have sleepless nights its just she does sleep but very very loudly!

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lilham · 04/11/2011 16:17

Oh yes sleeping bags. I use them and they are fab. Doesn't prevent the kicking. But once in her cot I don't have to worry about blankets smothering DD.

TruthSweet · 04/11/2011 16:24

If you did decide to bed share you go in the middle not baby. Safe bed sharing guidelines

RitaMorgan · 04/11/2011 16:30

DS went into his room just after 5 months - I wish I'd kept him with us longer actually as he was still feeding at about 3am, and it almost killed me getting up to feed him in the night after months of just being able to roll over and stick a nipple in his mouth. Next baby will stay with me til there are no night feeds.

I have a Cosatto bedside cot - highly recommend it if it'll fit in your room. It's not that big, we had it between the bed and the wall. Just meant I had to climb over DP to get in and out of bed.

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CrazyAlien06 · 04/11/2011 17:18

truthsweet I know that I'd go in the middle but it wouldn't work as DH has limbs flying everywhere! I've even been elbowed in the nose on a few occasions lol.
I'll try sleeping bag tonight to see if that helps as also have a thread on here about getting her settling after night feeds. I think that the sleeping bag would at least keep her warm rather than having blankets moving for a feed.

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WoTmania · 04/11/2011 17:22

Could you put a bed in her room and sleep in there with her for a while? That would maximise sleep for everyone.

LoveInAColdClimate · 04/11/2011 17:25

Could DH go into the guest room (not ideal I know...) while you have the baby in bed with you?

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