11 week old not taking anything but boob I am desperte for help!

[FrauHolle]

My LO refuses any kind of bottle, teat or dummy. I have tried all makes, MAM, Avent, NUK, Medela, silicone, latex...

Now it has gotten worse and she suckles all the bloody time. I am so sick of it, so frantic and frazzled. I have three under 3s and I am desperate to have some sort of life back and hand her to somebody to feed but I can't...ever.

3 different people tried to give her a bottle or dummy but she refuses. It's pumped breastmilk and the dummies have been near my skin to take my scent but she is adamant and spitting them out, gagging and retching.

Pls pls, I am desperate, can any of you share your tipps?

Sorry, sympathy, but no useful tips.
I've only once seen DD2 drink from a bottle. She was 5 and had poured her own squash into one she was using to feed her doll ( having lost her toy bottle yet again).
She would not drink from a bottle (and still aged 10 won't drink plain milk) despite aged 16 weeks falling off the bottom of percentile graph.
She just screamed at me, at DH, at the consultant paediatrician and at his senior nurse, but no way was she going to make any attempt at sucking a bottle.
Looking back, silly things in life were stressing me out and I should not have taken the easy way out and feed her continuously. I should have taken her for a walk or a drive in the car or even just let her fuss for 1/2 hour and let my body have a rest.
In the end the rule book went out the window and from 5 months old she ate loads of yoghurt, which she loved and she happily put on weight.
She's still far more stubborn than DD1

I used a babasling which was great and easy to bf in. However I do find that now at 8.6kilos hte baby is too big for it (at 4.5 months unfortunately).

Babaslings are easy to use but as you've found they don't last very long. A ring sling takes more to learn but lasts for around 3 years.

Thank you all again for the input. I have now actually looked at smoking and if I have any at all I do it outside and take a shower after. I am that paranoid about it. My Dh smokes nearly every day but usually in the evening and he sleeps in another room, so never co-sleeps.

Thank you also for all the lovely messages of support I just try to give everyone of them their special time with me and I am often completely alone as DH travels so much and is sometimes gone for weeks.

I will certainly look into the sling thing, it sounds perfect for us!! I am in Germany currently and I will have to see who offers them. I have one with a ring but the LO seems to get covered in it and it curves her back so much so was hesitant to use it. I need to find out how to fit them properly I guess.

Oh your in a good place for slings then they are some good german ones. German make slings I've come accross in the UK Storchenwiege and Manduca.

I'm sure there will be more. For help with how to wear them try You tube there are loads of clips.

Good luck your doing a fab job.

Sorry to hijack but I've got a moby wrap but no ideas how to use it to bf in... Does anyone have any pointers please?

tricky - I generally tie the Moby a bit looser, and then just direct DD2 towards whichever nipple suits, so she just feeds upright-ish, head on to my boob iyswim? I find if I have a top up, top down situation too, that she can just be like that and bob on and off with free boob access, without wnyone having a clue that I effectively have a bare boob out behind the sling. Even DH has to ask if I'm feeding as he can't tell!

If that doesn't work and I need more space to move her around in, I slip one "strap" lower down my shoulder/arm, or off completely, and just support her head until she is well latched on and then bring the material back up to support her like that.

DD1 preferred to feed in the cradle position, so I used to take her out, slip one "strap" off, and reinsert her into the other starp as if it were a pouch sling. The latch her on and bring the other "strap" up again.

Difficult to explain - have a play around and see what suits you both. HTH.