BF and visitors

[lilbitneurotic]

OK, I know in the grand scheme of things this may be the least of my worries once the little one arrives but right now it's playing heavily on my mind and making me reconsider my decision to BF.

I'm really concerned about BF infront of visitors - it makes me feel really uncomfortable when friends have fed in front of me and my husband when we've went to visit (admittedly probably only for the first 2 mins) but I don't think I could feed in front of visitors and considering how long and how often new borns are expected to feed for I don't think disappearing up stairs for every feed is ver feasible with a stream of family / friends that I will want to see and want to see my baby.

Has anyone discovered a good method to combat these issues because although I want my baby to have the very best start I feel this could be enough to put me off especially if other difficulties present themselves (which I'm sure there will be)

Apologies for the long post and I do appreciate I sound a bit pathetic . . .

I would get a nursing cover. I am not at all shy about feeding in public myself but did get one for expressing in the car ( don't ask!) The one I got was this one but in brown and it really looked more like a pashmina. Even if you were shy about the one inch of boob you need to show, this does the job. Also I thought it looked a bit nicer than the bebe au lait ones which at the time looked like 1970's curtains although the patterns seem to be nicer nowadays!

Sleepysuzy they are indeed fabulous things so simple yet so effective!!! My only regret is that I didn't look at getting one until after having my baby which is why I got it from mothercare so probably ended up paying twice as much!!! Oh well!!!

I found initially that BF was very indiscreet. In fact when I was learning the ropes discretion was a long off dream - I needed to lop my whole boob out. There was also a lot of squirting of milk...it wasn't a prob in front of DH or mum but even though I didn't really mind other people seeing boobage as such the whole feeding in front of visitors made me feel stressed as I felt watched and judged as I struggled on. 15 weeks down the line it's a different story but I'd really say comfort is a must initially. Good luck! It's bloody hard work at times but it's so worth it - I wouldn't change it for the world now :)

oh please, you will have no dignity left after childbirth anyway

i was never one of those 'no dignity' cases. just because a baby came out my fanjo and i feed him with my breasts doesn't mean they have to be on view to everyone