thinking of giving a formula top up at 10pm feed tonight

[pipoca]

DD is 9 weeks old and ebf. She sleeps 10pm ish til 3am ish and then feeds again at 6am ish but doesn't settle again for hours and I'm so tired and have a 3 yr old to look after and no childcare from next month in 40 degree heat (we live abroad). Getting a bit desperate for DD to drop a feed so thinking of trying to fill her up with formula tonight and see if she'll sleep longer.
Don't know why I'm posting really...just needed to vent. I know you'll all tell me it's pointless and she'll wake anyway and I'll have boobs like over ripre melons.
sigh.

[twinklegreen]

pipoca sounds like a good plan. Just to give you hope, all my children have slept all night on just breast milk. Your dd is still very tiny and she will get there eventually :)

[pipoca]

thanks twinkle :) it was worse with DS, he used to wake for a feed at 2am and then scream and scream and scream til the next feed at 5ish, then scream a bit more and then pass out. Did that from about 4 weeks til 14 weeks. and he was formula fed.

[organiccarrotcake]

pipoca as I've mentioned, my first son also slept brilliantly from 3 months old on only BM :) And she sounds like even at such a young age that she'll be a good sleeper. Hang in there :)

Tiktok I totally agree re the term "virgin gut". And everything else you say (as always LOL)

twinkle your personal story underlines it perfectly :)

[Marwoir]

pipoca hang on in there! My nearly-9wo decided last night that our lovely night feeding routine was boring, and has had me up every fifty minutes since 12.45, so I share a little bit of your pain (am praying it's a one off).
organiccarrotcake sorry to hear about your BIL, and thanks for your response. TBH at any other time in my life, I'd probably agree re: the word risk. But I think I'm feeling the full cumulative effect of all the well-meaning leaflets on SIDS, immunisations, breastfeeding, etc etc ad nauseum and all the possible ways I am going to either inadvertently cause my child some damage or fuck up his life. And it's entirely possible that this is tinged with sleeplessness and a little bit of PND, so not the best time to wade into the talkboards!
However, I do still think that the article I linked to from Kellymom is ridiculous. To talk about the risks and only discuss her own child (who is fine), and some other child who had a serious reaction to formula is really worthy of a Bad Science mention.
But other good points about gut flora, I get it. thanks!
Now, how to remind this child about sleeping.....

[RitaMorgan]

3 or 4 hours between feeds sounds like quite a lot to me - maybe if you feed her more frequently in the day she will need less at night?

[pipoca]

I've tried that Rita, makes no difference, in fact makes it worse as she's just windier than ever so takes ages to settle.