'You know what breast fed babies are like'

[picklebum2011]

Was the comment made by the health visitor at my dd's 1 year check when i said she does not go through the night. Her comment made me a little angry as i think she was being too generalised, i have friends whose children are similar ages who don't go though yet and they're not all breast fed, am i being too sensitive? She was implying that bf babies were clingier anyone find this to be true? I just think it wasn't very good that someone in her postion was making comments like that.

I think it was a lovely comment.

Think about it... would you have rather her said

'he should be sleeping through by now'

' you are still breastfeeding him'

'he shouldnt be having night feeds'

Instead it sounds like she was empathising. My HV said something similar recently. I took it more to mean 'who wouldnt if give half the chance'

gah. it should be 'babies' and 'formula fed babies'

anyway...dd slept through from 7 months as did about half of her little friends. the others still feed quite a bit in the night at all 21 months. they are all bf.

op yanbu - i dont like the hv's comment and it has undertones of 'well you chose that cross to bear...'

ds slept from 10pm to 6am from 10 weeks. Exclusively breastfed.
dd also exclusively breast fed didn't sleep through until 13 months.

Different children, different sleeping habits. Nothing to do with feeding.

ba8y1 - i agree. i know why dd sleeps through the night and it wasn't rocket science. i've always had a strong bedtime routine, protected naps during the day, we don't do too much and get over stimulated/tired. i am strict with dh that she has her dinner at a reasonable hour and that as soon as she starts shwoing tired signs we get her straight to bed with no dithering- if shes really whacked i dont bother with a bath as she can have that in the morning.

My co-sleeping, EBF 11 month old isn't clingy in the least - a pretty face grinning at him and he's off like a shot for the attention! He's been staying with a minder during the day for the past week and there hasn't been a single tear (from him at least)

He's also not sleeping through (although I get a 6 hour stint at least these days) - TBH that's not entirely his fault as I never slept through pre-baby either due to a snoring, fidgeting DH so he's probably disturbed by that.

As everyone else says, they're all different.

peppapig i would see what you mean if the comment was made by a friend but by a professional!!!!! think it's not right that they generalise like that, was she suggesting that if dd was ff she would sleep through? i don't know, all i know is that in a child's 1 yr review that comment was out of place and not helpful. As most people on here have highlighted every child is different and therefore sleep differently.