DS2 was born five days ago and BFing was going fine until my milk came in. Since then, my breasts have become massively engorged, nipples have become flat, and he just can't latch on. This happened with my first DS too and I managed the problem by pumping with double electric pump, regular feeding, and gradually we overcame it and I went on to BF him for 21 months.
The problem this time is that DS2 has come to associate being put to the breast with utter frustration, so now when I try he just freaks out immediately, screams, shakes his head, opens his mouth, but is so distressed that latching him on is virtually impossible. I'm at my wit's end! In desperation, because he just won't feed any other way, I've been putting the milk I'm pumping into a bottle and feeding him that way, but a) I'm terrified I'll never get him back on the breast and b) that he'll get into the habit of sucking on a rubber nipple and even if he does try to BF again as the engorgement reduces it will be agony.
Please, does anyone have any ideas or advice? I so want to get us back to BFing, but at the moment whatever I do to try and reduce the size and shape of nipples to make latch-on easier doesn't work (I'm taking Ibuprofen to reduce swelling, using massage and warm flannel to help let-down before feeding, hand expressing to soften the nipple - all in vain).
Feeling very 
right now.