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Co sleeping question

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KD0706 · 13/05/2011 20:39

I started a thread in sleep about this but nobody replied Sad so I thought I'd try here as I know lots of you ladies co sleep.

In short, my question is whether it can work to have Dd start the night in her own bed then come in with us when she wakes five am ish.
She refuses to go back to sleep in her cot at that time but will have another couple of hours sleep if she comes in with us.

DH thinks it's a slippery slope and she'll end up wanting to be in our bed all night.

Thanks!

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KD0706 · 13/05/2011 20:39

Oh, she's 12 months old if that makes ant difference

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notnowbernard · 13/05/2011 20:42

Do it! If she can go back to sleep for another couple of hours what's not to love?! I didn't co-sleep with DC1 or 2 but if they woke from 5 onward they came in with us

Lovely to wake up together as well Smile

StealthPolarBear · 13/05/2011 20:42

IME it's fine. We co slept like that with DS when he was about 9 months iirc - put to bed in his bed then in with us at first wake of the night, waay before 5.
You are not alone - lost of parents do this (so much that it's not even classed as co sleeping!) but most lie and say they don't

Only concern would be - if you plan another baby

japhrimel · 13/05/2011 20:42

I do this with my DD, though she's only 5 months old. I really don't think that having the option of the big bed for lie-ins is a slippery slope. You can stay firm about not coming into Mummy & Daddy's bed before 5am when it's nightime. I don't want to co-sleep all night as I get so stiff and sore, but my DD often thinks 5am or 5.30am is morning and after a bad night I'm exhausted and need the extra 2 hours sleep!

RhinestoneCowgirl · 13/05/2011 20:44

Oh I did this with both my babies, put them to bed in their cot and then they came in with us when they woke in the night. For me it was the way to get the most sleep - I am not ideologically attached to co-sleeping.

DD is now nearly 2.5 yrs, still bf, but sleeps all night (well, until 5am Wink) in her own bed. Now if she wakes early she comes in, has a bf, uses the potty and I tell her to clear off back to her bed (she is a wriggler, and talkative). Sometimes she goes back meekly and we get another hour or so...

louby78 · 13/05/2011 20:46

My DS is younger but that's what we do at the moment and it works fine. We used to co-sleep all night but then he went into his own cot and he was fine with the change. I do love a cuddle!!

browniebear · 13/05/2011 21:00

I co-slept with DS 11m for the first 10 months. Now he goes in the cotbed in his room and sleeps till about 5 or 6 then comes into our bed for a bf and we get up about 7. No probs. Till DD (6.5) wants to get in too then one of us has to get out!

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KD0706 · 13/05/2011 21:21

Thank you everybody!
This is what I love about mumsnet, lots of like minded mums telling me it's ok to do what it takes to get that bit extra sleep.

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Beveridge · 13/05/2011 22:11

We did that with DD, and she ended up sleeping through in her own bed as her periods of sleep naturally lengthened - no slope to slip down there!

balletmoo · 14/05/2011 20:53

Same here. We put DS in to his own cot for the first part of the night. I feed him and put him back into his cot for the first night feed, but if he wakes again after that, he's in with us. It's the easiest way to get the most amount of sleep.

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KD0706 · 14/05/2011 22:21

Well last night I even struggled to get her to sleep in bed with me at 5am so there's no way I could have made her sleep in her cot.

Lovely to know I'm not alone. And that it's ok!!

Thanks again for the replies

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