larry - thanks for the response. Glad to hear that there's light at the end of the tunnel!
Deliaskis - I know it's easy to say, but please don't feel cheated. I know exactly what you mean when you say that you're trying not to wish this time away. I feel resentful when people keep pointing out to me that it'll pass, etc.
There is much, much more to DS than his reflux, and I want to (and do) enjoy every little bit of him.
I find it helpful to be glad of the closeness that his reflux necessitates. For example, he's most comfortable upright in a sling/carrier. So he's there for most of the day. That means we're incredibly close physically, and there are so so many advantages to that, on all sorts of levels, for both DS and me. Most of the things that I do to soothe him and help him are actually ways of enhancing closeness - and that's a good thing!
I know it's a nightmare - I was feeling so stressed at one point that I seriously considered checking us both into a hospital because I didn't know what else to do. What's helping me is sort of just going with things, and not resisting them (bad sleep, etc), making sure his pain is managed (which does involve being very assertive with the NHS, and also finding a good doctor and sympathetic doctor). And it's always good to be informed - research all the various meds and treatments and discuss them with your doctor. Many doctors are not all that aware of the problem, its implications, and ways of dealing with it.
I do hope things start getting better for you.