Stopping breastfeeding

[4evamum]

I have spent the last twenty three months sleeping in my daughters room with her. She is still being breastfeed, although not as often now, but it would be nice to go out with my husband and have a meal, or even go back to the marital bed! Am i causing more problems than are neccessary. TBH, i am not concerned, neither is my husband, he is very supportive, but i would like to stop feeding her and do evening classes at college. Any advice would be appreciated in helping me to stop.

I don't think you necessarily need to stop breastfeeding in order to start going out for a meal or starting evening classes, but I do think you need to stop sleeping in her room with her. Presumably she will take a drink from a cup and will have something to eat other than breastmilk if she's hungry, so you don't have to be tied to her day and night.

I have no idea of the best way to do it, because I didn't co-sleep, but I think that it would be better for you both if you took it in small steps, and I think the step is to go back to your own bed.

how many breastfeeds a day is your daughter having?

how many breastfeeds a day is your daughter having?

how many breastfeeds a day is your daughter having?

how many breastfeeds a day is your daughter having?

how many breastfeeds a day is your daughter having?

how many breastfeeds a day is your daughter having?

Sorry, was being nosy on another discussion.
She drinks when sad or tired, so maybe four times a day. She also drinks pretty much all through the night, which I know is my fault, cos i am already there.

You don't have a feeding problem - you have a sleeping problem.

Go out and have that meal - at 23 months she will live.

At 23 months I was feeding my son, but I was also going out to evening meetings, teaching in the evening....

If your dh is supportive then get him to take over the putting to bed. If you are out at an evening class she will cope - honest.

God yes-just get out there and do your thing!!

its hust all easier said than done. i do have a sleeping issue, but thats where i find myself sleeping better. we are both too used to it, but in all honesty its what i did with my son as well, and he eventually, aged 2.5 told me to go away to my own bed. i hadn't expected to be still feeding her, and altough it poses no problem to me, i know its not right to be still with her 24/7.

Your dh sounds like a saint.
Mine was moaning (in the nicest possible way) about being out of our bed for three nights when ds was born!!

he is fantastic, but i forgot to mention he works away two/four nights of the week, and so is used to being alone. He does occasionally moan, gently, but one look in his direction shuts him up!