Bet i'm bf dd forever

[agalch]

I bf ds2 for 2.5 years(he is nearly 10 now).Had dd August 2004 and still bf her although i'd planned to give up when she ws around a year old. haha! Don't mind most of the time but she sleeps with me most nights,feeds at least once in the night and i absolutely can't go out in the evening as she wants me for bedtime.Means no xmas night out for me.Love her to peices and feel so lucky to have a little girl after 2 boys but i'm shattered and need time out!!! Any advice??

Motherhood certainly teaches you things about your personality that you'd rather not know, I find.

I'm thinking of introducing a star chart for 'Good Mummy' behaviour - stars for no shouting, no unreasonableness etc don't think I'd qualify for my end-of-week treat though....

Ds now tells me when I have been bad. "Mummy I'm very disappointed in you." Ironically this was because I got fed up waiting for him to fall asleep while I was breastfeeding him . I didn't quite make the Perfect Smug Mum of the Week award that time.

I am so so glad i am not the only one who sleeps with/bf during the night and is a total wuss!! I listen to the mum of the wee one i mind and feel so inadaquate sometimes.her dd just goes to bed every night and sleeps through,always feels like i'm making excuses for my dd not being as good as hers. Will be leaving dd with dp and big brothers for xmas night out tho so i'll report back when i've been out.

Right...well, that was easy! WEnt to bed in spare room, dh was armed with sippy cup of formula and dd was in cot. She was a bit of a nightmare to settle for some reason - kept waking up for a cuddle during Spooks! BUT....she slept until 5.45, dh brought her in bed with him, she looked surprised that I wasn't there, but didn't cry, had a tiny bit of milk, and fell asleep until 8am.

I slept ALL NIGHT! I feel great...but...my baby is growing up and doesn't need me any more..SOB! She's started crawling, pulls herself up to stand, even stood unaided very briefly. And it does feel very poignant, as if her precious babyhood is slipping away.

agalch - ther is nothing wrong with your dd and it is totally up to you what you do. I certainly don't want to make you feel bad or guilty. I never feel guilty about having her in bed with me. Just knackered.

Sounds hopeful aloha.
But....why are you moving out?
You still have the issue of getting you and dh in bed alone together to grapple with?
Does she have some formula at other times?
Do you not feel that continuing to feed her merely reinforces wakefulness?

Ignore if not helpful.

Sorry-see feed was at 5:45.
Definitely on the margins of acceptability then.

good one aloha! bet you feel like a new woman

ds still waking 2-3 times after midnight, but isn't having any milk (well not until 5am - this morning). WISH he'd just give up on the waking, since the milk bar is closed...
quite that dd thought waking wasn't worth the hassle if a bf wasn't coming her way!

Moondog, I think she was uninpressed by teh formula, also 5.45 is sort of morningy and I don't mind that so much. It's the 2-3am that gets me. Also I moved out in case there was a 2am waking so I could have a whole night's sleep. Marvellous.

& it IS poignant to see them growing up...(i already can't believe ds was that tiny etc etc!) but it's getting better & better too IMO (1st time mum), ds is more fun than ever, communicating, playing etc & it's fab!

just think of all the sleep you'll get when she's a little bit older (here's hoping)

fantastic, aloha! I hope that it can continue.

DS3 was awful about sleeping. I came back to work last March when I was having an average of about five hours of interrupted sleep a night. It was dreadful.

In the end, what sorted it was sending DH in to settle him, rather than me just giving in a breastfeeding him.

sorry - that was meant to be "and breastfeeding him".

Aloha,you didn't make me feel bad or guilty at all,and i don't feel guilty about having her in bed but it's just nice to know i'm not the only one who struggles with little/no sleep.Glad you had a whole nights sleep.One day very very soon it may be me lol

agalch - she's the same age as my DS3 then - you are a hero to be still doing this - I got to a point earlier this year where I just couldn't survive any more on the lack of sleep!