just made up first powder formula, why do i feel so guilty ...

[Pootle78]

and also like I am about to burst into tears?

DS is 10 week old and has had mix feeding from the beginning. I express 3 feeds a day and he has 2 formula bottles a day. We have been usng the pre-made cartons for the last 10 weeks however, it is getting too expensive to continue, so have made the decision to go to powder, why do i feel so bad?

just re-read, god what a woe is me thread, so no need for anyone to reply!

Its ok.
The formula is the same as whats in the cartons isn't it? I think the cartons have just been heat treated or something so they keep longer.

You have nothing to feel guilty about. Baby feeding well, combined feeding is great. And you are right, the cartons cost heaps.
Don't worry!

As long as you're following the guidelines on how to make it safely there's no need to feel bad at all.

Cartons are UHT - when you make up the powder, you are doing more or less the same process.

Hmmmm.....why the feeling tearful about this? Is it that when you gave cartons, you could still feel like a breastfeeding mum - as if giving cartons was a quick and temporary thing, sort of less of a main part of his intake than breastmilk? And when you use powder and have to make up the bottles with more thought and care, and time, you feel more like a formula feeding mother as a result? And this is not how you saw yourself when you were pregnant?

It's not that you are judging yourself or other mothers who use formula - just that you are a bit sad that the picture of yourself is not what you planned?

I may be way off here of course!

You feel guilty because we're put under immense pressure to breast feed and can be made to feel like we're failing our baby if we decide not to for whatever reason.
You know what feels right for you! Don't feel guilty. Good luck

says - but she has been formula feeding since the start! It's the change to powder that's making her feel tearful....cartons don't make her cry, but powder does.

She's been mixed feeding from the start.Using cartons feels temporary but buying powdered formula confirms she is not thinking of EBF her baby.

Er...yes, that's what I said :)

There's a Support for FF thread somewhere, I will bump it for you if you want a read. It was started as a place where people that FF that didn't plan to can share stories and talk about stuff.

Thanks for replies, wasn't expecting any to be honest.

Tiktok I think you are right in a way, I always thought I would be able to breast feed so having to make a bottle rather than either expressing or feeding from me wasn't on my radar until ds was 24 hours old. And giving a carton didn't feel like proper formula as there is no brain work with it! THAt and all the measurements have worn off my little bottles so where as I knew where 150ml was and It didn't matter if I went over, he would just leave what he didn't want, I've now had to move on to new 9oz bottles which look too big for him, so may be I'm sad he's growing up!!!

Anyway, hoping it's just coincedence that he's had the grumps since he had the first bottle of powder made formula, fingers crossed he's not telling me he's got expensive taste and only wants cartons!

Thanks borrower, I'll look out for that.