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BBC "doco" on bfing - her from "Cherry Has a Baby".

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ThisFeelsWeird · 08/04/2011 13:00

here

You just know it'll be full of teenage ffers saying "my boobs are for my boyfriend" and hippies feeding five year olds and lots of "normal mums" in between saying they gave up at 6 weeks because it hurt like hell or they "can't be seen with their boobs out in Starbucks" Hmm. Oh, and they might even chuck in a feminist to say that bfing enslaves women to the home, removes them from the workplace and is generally responsible for the continuation of a paternalistic society full of war and violence.

Blah blah...

Strongly suspect there will be nothing whatsoever interesting or enlighening in it. Will try hard not to watch. And fail.....

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kikid · 12/04/2011 21:31

never tasted formula fifitot, baby loved the bm!

greedychops · 12/04/2011 21:32

Getting a bit fed up with it all being about her guilt rather than an actual look at bf.

Hopefully · 12/04/2011 21:33

Never tried BM - couldn't pump even a fraction of an ounce. DP reliably informs me that formula is reasonably gross.

mistressploppy · 12/04/2011 21:33

(.) (.)

Marking my place Grin

Loopymumsy · 12/04/2011 21:35

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fifitot · 12/04/2011 21:36

I had conjunctivitis and put some on my eye as suggested by someone on here. It worked a treat!

kikid · 12/04/2011 21:44

yes i did that too for baby, was not sure about it but it actually did work! fantastic.. i also know imunosupressed patients take bm to improve the condition.

kikid · 12/04/2011 21:48

£100 per litre!!!!

fifitot · 12/04/2011 21:48

Must be the anti-bacterial properties I suppose.

HubbaHubbaBubba · 12/04/2011 21:53

I agree greedy - she seems to make a lot of other people's experiences more about how she feels about herself.

So flame me, but the feeding of a 5-yr old is not comfortable to watch...

Atomant · 12/04/2011 22:01

I know a lot of women who feel as guilty as she does. Very sad that they feel that huge amount of guilt.

Most shocking thing was that SCBUs have to pay for milk when they run out! Where do they get it from that they have to pay? Was good to see what mightve happened to my donated milk.

Was quite a good programme covered quite a lot of issues with only a few judgey pants. Nothing new but quite a broad spectrum of issues covered.

Glad she felt better by the end of her journey.

mspotatochip · 12/04/2011 22:06

I think it was good she tried hard to balance it. love the lactivists ;)

Chocolocolate · 12/04/2011 22:11

Thisfeelweird I think your friend was on this show as well Grin

Loopymumsy · 13/04/2011 06:28

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HubbaHubbaBubba · 13/04/2011 06:42

Maybe you've got a point loopsy, but I still would rather she had explored the opinions/values of the woman she was interviewing a bit more.

I did think it was a good programme, but, except for the woman who said she wouldn't breastfeed (before baby was born) then BF for 11 months, everyone else was a bit of a stereotype (maybe for a good reason?!).

I was really shocked by the statistic given that only 3% of UK women exclusively BF at 5 months. That seems mad to me!

AnalyticalArmadillo · 13/04/2011 08:17

Louby 78 - Sorry to totally topic change but has anyone ruled out sneaky tongue ties in your children? (ie not those obvious at the front, but hidden well under tongue where they've SO often missed) It's just with you saying your first refused to feed and your second refuses the bottle, both are behaviours very common in TT infants (and the link is genetic ie it's v common for more than one child to have) A quick way to tell if there's anything at all funky going on orally is to look at the roof of their mouth. Anyway I wont waffle on, it was just a random idea that popped to mind whilst reading all the comments, hope it's ok to reply! :)

Analytical Armadillo

greeneone12 · 13/04/2011 09:34

It made me quite emotional as in the beginning I struggled...not because of bleeding or cracks etc but just because it was very hard work and constant!

I wish they would have looked more at how people can feed discreetly in public.....all I kept hearing was 'getting my boob out' when actually it can be done quite discreetly....

HarrietJones · 13/04/2011 09:58

I felt none of the women feeding were particularly discrete!

The blokes view could have been made more of , esp the footballers.dh watched it with me & was more vocal in complaining about the crap than I wasGrin

HarrietJones · 13/04/2011 10:15

Oh & I was pleased to see that the lass with the camera didn't give up & cherry encouraged expected

SisterCarrie · 13/04/2011 11:38

It was all a bit self-serving. I know many women like Cherry. I sometimes feel the vocal and victimised way in which they describe the way they are 'made to feel guilty' by the lactivists is a bit of a smokescreen. I don't really think they feel half as guilty as they claim to.

It's such a polarising issue - I wonder if those who mix feed tend not to be as vocal about their choices because they are comfortable with compromise and don't tend to have strident feelings about this sort of thing.

Calling it "Is breast best?" is intended to be provocative, but I thought it was a bit 'GCSE Media Studies'. There is no question to be answered. The programme should have been given a less disingenuous title.

theborrower · 13/04/2011 16:09

I didn't think it was a great programme, as I think it just skimped on the issues, and it seemed to roll out the stereotypes IMO. Ok, they were real women, as someone said above, but we had the teenage girls who said "boobs were for sex" up against the lactivists who humped their huge bosoms out in the most indiscreet way possible, and a man who drank his partner's EBM on his cornflakes. Then we had her encouraging the young mum, who was nervous about BFing for the first time in public, doing it in the middle of a busy shopping centre on a bench with a camera crew in her face. Why not take her for a coffee and meet other mums to chat to and relax with?

And who was this programme aimed at anyway? The people like me and Cherry who felt hugely guilty for not getting it right? The teenage mums who didn't want to? The lactivists who don't need telling anyway? Sorry to sound harsh, but I was quite disappointed by it. I think the only good point she made was that people (like the young woman with the pain - Emma?) need good support to stop them giving up when they encounter troubles.

yankiedoodledandy · 13/04/2011 21:41

Why would someone get called a slag for breastfeeding??! Bizarre.

muslimah28 · 13/04/2011 22:00

i agree with a pp who said too much was made of bfing in public and getting yr boobs out. I have a hooter hider and i can feed in public anywhere no probs but i never 'get my boobs out'

otherwise i liked the prog, it has to use stereotypes in a way cos one hour of normal ppl saying 'yea i bfed, thats about it really' isnt good telly unfortunately.

RJandA · 14/04/2011 10:04

I've come to this a bit late, but I actually think it was quite a good programme overall.

Alright, so it was a bit focused on Cherry's personal experience and feelings of guilt, but to be fair she did say that just because it makes her feel guilty doesn't mean that people shouldn't talk about how good bfing is.

And I think it is important to talk about how much it can hurt at the beginning, certainly before I had my DD I was told that if it hurt then there was something wrong with positioning and attachment. It was only after weeks of pain and countless bfing experts telling me that P&A was fine that someone said to me, well, it can hurt at the beginning, don't worry it'll get better, and that made it much easier to accept. Was also pleased to see the young mum who went to the bfing group as I think that can really help.

Was a bit disappointed that the lactivist's bloke didn't reply to Cherry's "oh my god you put breastmilk on your crunchy nut" with "you put breastmilk from a bunch of cows you've never met on yours!" - which is far more strange when you think about it.

Also the title was a bit silly as there wasn't really much discussion of whether breast is best or not.

NotAnotherNewNappy · 15/04/2011 22:05

Agree with RJ, I liked the way it explored how difficult it can be to establish BF and I thought Emma was a star.

I'd also like to watch the programme somebody else suggested on the history of attitudes towards BF/FF.

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