I need a break, fed up being tied to bedtimes as I bf...

[notremotelyintofootie]

dd is 16 months and I still feed her at bedtime, during the night, first thing jn the morning and before naptime if we are at home...

I am really fed up with it now... I have to do all the bedtimes and night wakings and I always get up with her anytime from 6 am....

I need to stop bf but she is so stubborn and ia very demanding for 'booby' she pulls at my top, puts her hands down and won't take no for an answer... When she wakes at night if dh goes in she goes mental shouting 'mummy' 'booby' and tries to fling herself out of his arms!

I need advice on how to atop bf a little girl who will
Not be happy at no more booby!

(she has never slept through the night either!)

These could be related!! At 12m my dd was perfectly capable of sleeping thru the night but just preferred to wake and have milk ;-) so I sent dh in to see her - telling her, no more milk at nigit, you're a big girl, milk is for day time etc etc - and on the 3rd night she cracked it and has slept thru ever since!! It's habit, rather than necessity, after a while, esp if she's wily enough to tell you what she actually wants!!

my DD is only 12 months, but I send DH in there when I don't want to feed. Gradually we've worked it so he puts her to sleep (as I don't home in time now most days).

I think you've got a week of tough nights ahead of you, but it will be worth it.

At first I would feed her, then decide I didn't want to feed for another 3 hours and we would only do until around midnight.

FWIW she doesn't sleep through either, but DH can settle her.

Hi, we have just gone through this with our DD (she is 17 months). We got rid of the nap time and morning feeds first. It was fairly easy to stop these two with distraction. The night time ones were tricky to say the least. DH went into settle her when she woke at night. She was fairly angry about this and did go ballistic the first few nights. She wouldn't let him comfort her at all. It was tough to hear but I knew DH was in there with her. After a couple of rough nights she did start settling with her Dad. She is now sleeping so much better. It was hard, but not as hard as I thought it would be.

We droped morning feeds first with DH getting up with her and me haveing a bit of a lie in. But DD was 2 before we did this as I was happy to carry on longer.

I would just caution that 16months isn't possibly a great time to stop, there is another big speration agsatiy phase around 16-18months. So it may be easier in a month or two.

Thanks everyone, it's not going to be easy.... Dh works varying shifts so isn't always here for bedtime or may need to be up for work at half six and so doesn't like doing night times (in fact has never done a night waking) and also hates mornings and and so won't help in the morning, I have had 2 lie ins since she was born! Arghhhh so basically I need to find a way to do it without his help....

'the no-cry sleep solution' by Elizabeth Pantley may have some ideas you haven't tried.

Could you try sending your OH in at night when he has a couple of days off?

OP I have to get up at 6:30 most days, doesn't stop me doing my share of the nights.

Plus I can also work varying shifts, atm doing 2 x 13 hour days a week, plus another 3 x 8/9 hours.

0630 is hardly an early get up!