If I a going to stop BF does it matter when.

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DD is 5 wo and I am struggleing with BF during the day and keeping my 3yo dd happy.

I am going to stop at some point but does it matter when?

I keep trying for that magical 6 weeks when some people say she will feed more efficiently not the hour and a bit for each feed she has now.

does it make any odds if i keep going or sop now?

I don't think it matters when you stop but how you stop also you will have to think of bottle refusal, is your DD already taking a bottle?

But they do get more efficient the older they get and when your supply is built. Are you sure your DD is feeding for the whole time and not just comfort sucking? What happens if you unlatch her before she unlatches naturally?

I had a similar situation 3yo and now 19wo, ds soon learnt to feed quickly because if he didn't he unfortunately had to unlatch (school run twice a day and 3yo that still needs help on the loo at home).

In the meantime my 3yo was very good if I sat and read with her while feeding, or we played board games, did stickers, watched a movie. All things that can be done one handed.

Every breastfeed she has helps. So the later you stop, the better.

Over an hour for every feed is pretty long - have you seen anyone to get her latch checked?

She has had three formula feeds over laast five feeks which she took well.

If i unlatch her she screams if i put her down she screams she is just unhappy unless attached to my breast and I don't think I can do it any more I want to put dd 1 to bed I want a bath

i am selfish

You are not selfish, it sounds like you need some RL support. Is there a local Bfing Group you could go to where they could check her latch or a local Bfing Counsellor?

You're not selfish, it's tough especially realising you can't do absolutely everything for your first born that you used to (I have found this really hard especially bath and bed). I have not enjoyed bf my second like I did my first and have also considered giving up.

If you really want to continue I would third getting her latch checked/some support. also, could somebody else do one bottle feed a day for you so you can get some non-baby time.

If she is unhappy being put down have you tried a sling it might help and mean you are not pinned to the sofa.

Will second trying a sling, DC2 was much happier being asleep in a sling and it gave me chance to spend time with DC1. Have you got one or is there a friend you could borrow one off to try?

Also, if you haven't done it already I'd give one of the Bfing lines a call, even if its just to talk through how you are feeling. Have you got the numbers?