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my weaned BF toddler is still asking for BF 3 motnhs later-any advice?

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theidsalright · 11/03/2011 13:34

I hope I haven't chosen a dodgy day to post...(just going by another thread)

Brief story-DC and I were in the midst of a very happy BF relationship at 21 months (one or two feeds a day) and I planned to let him self wean. I had an accident at Christmas and was unable to feed, first due to medication (opiates) and then due to my physical limitations/pain. DS was therefore weaned very suddenly. He was fantastic and accepted that I was "broken" as an explanation and in the acute stage barely asked, just looked very worried all the time when he approached me. Needless to say I was pretty heartbroken and actually cried more about this than my injuries!

Once I was up and about again I suppose I could have started up again albeit with some positioning difficulty but decided not to, as I thought that this may be very confusing for him (Mummy says no, now she says yes etc).

DS still comes into bed to hold my nipple every morning. It clearly soothes him. He also asks for milk in a fairly jokey way and sometimes says "want some, want some". I stick to my explanation "the milk went away when Mummy was broken". Today he crawled up and latched on. He quickly came off again but asked for the other side so I let him. This seemed to satisfy him "milk all gone".

Am I dealing with this appropriately? Does the fact that he is STILL asking 3 months later mean he was really really not ready? Is it strange to let him stroke me?

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theidsalright · 11/03/2011 13:37

shit
I see that other thread has exploded in the time it took me to write mine.
I worry I will be grist for the mill Sad

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nappydaysagain · 11/03/2011 14:32

Hi sorry I haven't got an answer for you but just wanted to bump your post and say don't let the other thread worry you.

I'm sure an expert will be along soon Smile.

No it isn't strange to let your son stroke you, he's still only little and they all have their own ways of comforting themselves, and finding a way to feel calm and safe (if that's the right word).

My DS2 had little cut up cot sheets that he called his lovies which he would hold onto. No difference really just his comfort object wasn't part of me.

Hope someone is along soon with some experience of weaning similar to yours.

Unfortunately I only BF my first 2 DSs until 7 months as wasn't as informed as I am now (pre mumsnet).

Currently BF DS3 9 months Smile.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 11/03/2011 14:36

Really hope it's not strange to let him stroke you as DD still does this to me.

She was fed till 2.8 and we have had pretty much the same experience. Haven't got any advice sorry, just wanted to post to say it all sounds normal and DD is still asking at 3.5.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 11/03/2011 14:39

Which thread is it?

theidsalright · 11/03/2011 16:32

Jilted it's the one with lots of responses...:)

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