I want to stop bf my 18mo but he's not going to like it, help.

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I only feed him before bed and usually when he wakes up during the night. He wakes up every night and I think he only feeds for comfort.

I just want to stop now, I've had enough and want my body back. To be honest I almost feel leached these days as he HAS to feed from me before bed.

I've been giving him a cup of toddler milk as well, which he sips at, but he really just wants me. I just don't want to upset him and I don't want him to wake up DD who sleeps in the same room.

Anyone got any suggestions?

do you have a partner who can do the "night shift"?
be gentle and firm with him and he should not get too distressed.

I am at the moment "day weaning" 14m dd, distraction helps and if it gets really bad, dh takes over with a beaker of milk (she won*t take it from me).

Yes I have a dh, but he's never helped with night time stuff with either child. Much as I love him, he's a right prick when his sleeps disturbed. I usually go back to bed when he gets up, it's easier than having a twat around the house the next day.

Good luck day weaning, I didn't have to do that, he was quite happy having a cup during the day.

If you really want to do this you may need to be ready for a few nights of crying

Can you move dd to another room? Don't change ds into another room as this will make it worse.

Leave your partner or a friend with him so he can't smell you or break your resolve. If you give in one night after 30 minutes crying, he will cry for even longer the next night.

The other option is to think is bfing still something he needs to make him confident the rest of the time? He will stop eventually and can you just give it a go one month at a time?

Not saying you shouldn't stop if that is really what you want

There is no way I could leave him to cry for that long, I think I'll just have to keep feeding for now.

DD stopped herself at this age and I was sad about it, he just doesn't want anything but mooomie.

Thanks though.

I couldn't leave mine to cry either!

Even a night longer will be specail to him and it will go all too quickly! I fed mine for a few years each and now am glad I didn't make them stop but it has to be your choice