Really struggling with BF, not sure what to do next

[greenbeanie]

I posted a few days ago as dd, nearly 10wks old, was crying and fussing at the breast. She is dc3, I bf the other 2 for over a year each. From reading the advice I was given and doing some research it seemed that oversupply and fast let down were the main problems.

I have tried to resolve this with block nursing and it seems to have helped with the oversupply but dd is still screaming mainly at the start of the feed and on and off during. Towards the end she tends to become more settled. I really don't know what to do next I can't go out during feed times as she can sometimes scream and scream. I'm finding it really stressful, i am desperate to continue breastfeeding but if it is like this i'm not so sure. Any advice would be great.

green sorry I can't remember you previous posts but did someone give you this link? And have you spoken to a Bfing Counsellor about it?

I think you should seek advice from a bfing counsellor like JJJ suggested. Although you may think you've figured out the problem you may be wrong it could be something else. They will give you the best advice and help you carry on.
Also just try and stay as relaxed as possible. I know easier said then done, but if they can sense you're tense (and believe me they will) they will also find it difficult to relax.

Good Luck :).

Thanks for the advice, yes I have looked at the link and tried most of the advice. I think you are right i need to contact a counsellor and see if they can offer any advice. Have always enjoyed feeding my other dc but this time i'm finding it so stressful.

So sorry you are finding it stressful green have you got any local Bfing Counsellors and have you got the numbers of the Helplines?

Yes I have got their numbers, the irony is that I am a health vistor who specialises in breastfeeding support!! It's just so different when it is your own and there are all the emotions and hormones involved.

I had something that sounds similar with DS at around the same age, it was so hard. I had thought I would be fine as I had breastfed DD for over 2 years. What worked for me, although not instantly was making feed time very calm. I would take DS upstairs to the bedroom and have some skin to skin and try and let him choose to feed. If I can find some threads of mine from the time I will post as I got some good advice. I got through it with DH's support and still feeding DS at a year and a half and at the time I didn't imagine I would be...hang on in there!

just found this old thread of mine:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/breast_and_bottle_feeding/802014-Breastfeeding-seems-to-be-going-wrong-with-8-wk-old

Thanks one hit, that's really helpful.

I had the same problem which I guess started around 8 weeks. He would just lie at the breast and scream. It was horrible. This would go on for a good half hour- hour every feed. It was draining but it passed. I think it went on for 2-3 days every week for about 3 weeks and then would come and go- it hasn't happened for a while now (he's now 19 weeks) I think it passed when he got to about 12 weeks. I feel for you, it's horrible. But like most of these things it passes, and I'd nearly forgotten about it till I read your post. Good luck.

oh and what i'd do is feed him when he was drowsy/nearly asleep which. I would never force the breast at him, just let him take it when he'd calmed down.